So at the beginning of our relationship I made it very clear to my boyfriend that I didn’t want him to touch my butt. At the time I was self conscious about it because I have a lot of stretch marks from when I lost too much weight during one of my eating disorders, and I thought my ass was really not attractive. Now, I’ve had a change of heart. I’m actually feeling really sexy right now - got myself lacy bras and underwear, as well as leggings that are tight and make my ass look FINE.
So in short I want my boyfriend to touch my butt... (he did once but it was a few months ago and we were mostly just focused on talking since we hadn’t seen each other for a while due to COVID, so he stopped) How do I ask him?
I’m letting him initiate things because I have a lot going on and I like it better when he asks me out first. So would it be weird of me to ask about this semi-sexual gesture when I’m not trying to bring up sexy stuff before him? (Just to clarify: I’m letting him initiate things because I had been for a - very - long time and it was stressful for me. I don’t believe in gender norms, I just prefer it when he asks me out because it makes me feel like a priority.)
Also, how do I ask him to call me ‘baby’? Like, not just when it’s both of us but when we’re in public too, because I think it’s a really sweet nickname.