accidentally erased my entire post so here we go again:
hi! me again.
my partner (17) and i (17 on thursday! :D ) have been in a really healthy, loving relationship since december. we’ve known each other as close friends for a loooong time before, and had much needed personal character development before we got together. to keep it short: we communicate about everything, try to be as healthy as we can with everything, and treat everything that comes up as a “we” issue- WE can do this TOGETHER. i’m worried about my health? WE can go out and exercise TOGETHER. they’re worried about their mental health because they never had access to a therapist? WE can support you and get you the help you need TOGETHER. my therapist approves of us and is always excited to hear about us! (last week my partner was ranting about an icarly episode and i started to sob because i loved them so much. she was very happy to hear about that.)
we are still very clearly in the puppy-love, honeymoon phase of the relationship. “i love you!!” every two minutes, “i can’t wait to marry you!” and other (completely serious and realistically planned) long term talks, always wanting cuddles or other forms of intimacy, always being on call if we can’t see each other, always texting if we can’t call, you get the deal.
my partner keeps saying something that makes my anxiety flare up, though. they’ll say “i love you”, and then say “i hope i never get tired of saying it”. i started to get worried about when this puppy phase will end. are we actually going to get tired of saying it? everyone always says relationships get boring after a while and it’s like...a CHORE to maintain them. love isn't a feeling, it’s a job and a commitment, etc etc. that gets me really worried. i know i’m still young, but that sounds like...well, like it kinda sucks, to be honest?
both my partner and i have never gotten the chance to express ourselves in the way we have been able to with each other. we both got to experiment with sex, gender, pronouns, expression with our clothes, etc. we explore the world and life together, hand in hand. we’re totally and 100% committed to each other already, and worked on building a healthy and fun friendship before we were even together. we’re always finding new ways to love each other and expand our relationship. are we really going to stop feeling so nice after a while? is it really going to get boring? the way people describe it is like “you’re going to get sick of saying i love you and kisses are going to get boring and you’ll sleep in different rooms and sex will get boring and....but that’s okay!” is it? that sounds like it sucks to me!
will we be able to maintain our relationship after this “honeymoon phase”? or are relationships doomed to become another task to take care of and is love doomed to become some chore to maintain? we both feel all of our emotions so strongly just in general, so i can’t conceptualize NOT feeling the way we do right now.
this site is always so helpful when i have silly things to worry about, and i always appreciate the responses i get from here! thank you!