I’m still thinking about the woman in Northern Ireland I want to get to know more. We have been getting to know eachother for a some weeks, but she stopped messaging me and hasn’t replied since two weeks. We were planning a date on a week of my finals, Friday, we even had a time. But she had a headache and since then, hasn’t replied or received my messages. She said she was so sorry when she had to cancel and I still hope she is okay.
She was the first to match with me and we have so much in common. We would often send long messages to eachother and even videochatted one time. She loved our videochat session, immediately messaging me afterwards and I did too. For once, I can talk to someone about IDEAS, creativity and about our similar experiences, and someone understands me and not just love me. We both lived in foreign countries and don’t have a concept of our national identity. We both love our Asian influences, love studying and she even knows who Billie Ellish is.
I am so concerned that she is ghosting me, but at the same time, I am concerned about her health, as she expressed that she gets depressed during this time and she has had much work during this time. And with the lockdown in the UK, I especially fear for her mental health.
I don’t know how to express concern without being too invasive or pushy. I also want to express my desire but I don’t know if it’s right. Should I do it? Holidays are a lot for people and maybe she is busy. I don’t know how to tell if she is ghosting me or if she is thinking of me and just is busy. Either way I know that worrying is not gonna make it better nor is doing the wrong thing. I looked at a post, only answered by the staff, that was helpful and some ways, but I want to know if it could be applied to my situation since this is relatively new.