Hookups and Friends With Benefits

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Hookups and Friends With Benefits

Unread postby idk anymore » Mon Dec 21, 2020 12:33 pm

So, I'm aware of the concept of hookup culture and friends with benefits. How does someone establish such a relationship without sounding creepy. Its not like I can just go up to random people and say, "YOOOOO WANNA FUCK?"
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Re: Hookups and Friends With Benefits

Unread postby Sam W » Mon Dec 21, 2020 12:39 pm

Hi idk anymore,

It depends a lot on how a person prefers to meet their potential partners. For instance, some people who use dating apps will list that they're only interested in casual sex. Or, someone might flirt with someone in person and build up to asking if they'd like to have sex. This article gives a good overview of the ways people can make those relationships work: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex.

idk anymore
not a newbie
Posts: 84
Joined: Tue Dec 15, 2020 7:22 am
My Awesomeness Quotient: I have a pretty good sense of humor
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My sexual identity and orientation: Pan, mostly
Location: Epping, NH

Re: Hookups and Friends With Benefits

Unread postby idk anymore » Mon Dec 21, 2020 6:05 pm

what about for not adults
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Re: Hookups and Friends With Benefits

Unread postby Sam W » Tue Dec 22, 2020 9:09 am

A lot of the suggestions in that article still apply, but the ways of meeting people will be different. For teenagers, most of the time potential partners come from school or from hobbies and clubs or, like adults, you may meet someone who starts off as friend who you have sexual chemistry with, and the two of you decide you'd like to try a friends with benefits situation.


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