I have been waiting for my crush and date to show up on Friday at 7 PM my time on Instagram, but she didn’t. But, she did say she was helping her sister move and settle in. She also didn’t respond to me since Tuesday, but followed me on Instagram and I am sure flirted with me a lot un the last full interaction.
So, yeah she most likely be busy, but I don’t know how to keep myself consistently stable and to remind myself, while keeping realistic expectations. How do I keep that in mind without predicting wrong or going insane? I am really anxious that she will end up not following up, which is always an fear of mine.
However, my fears ended up being wrong because the last time I thought she ended up ghosting me, she was really busy with helping her cousin move in. When we talked for an hour, we really talked on and on for one session. She said in one exchange when I talked about my good grades “Gorgeous and intelligent. A girl who can do both”. And also when I said she is the queen (in reference to a Pride outfit where she looked like royalty), she said “With my fame and your royalty, we make a good fair, don’t we”. I think this is flirting but I am not sure. Either way, I am hopeful that she can get back to me soon once she is not busy.
I just really want to have a relationship with her, but I hope she’s just free. How do I manage my expectations and anxiety? But, at the same time, how do I be honest with her where I do not alienate her? I want to show her I care and not overwhelm her, yet communicate what I want too. Also what do I do once she responds, because I really want to set up another date with her. And for sure she is not a Catfish because she’s verified by the app and she followed me on Instagram.
So this is the full situation, I would really like help in this case because since Tuesday she’s not been responsive nor checking my messages. I know people don’t live on their phones all the time, but I really just wanna video chat with her and when I asked her to do so that one time she said she would love to and was really looking forward to it (with emojis and all). I think she likes me, but I’m not so sure. Again considering some past situations and with me having some difficulty with therapy right now, it’s making my stress a little more worse. Much help would be appreciated, if there’s any questions, please feel free to ask.