I would love some advice about two crushes and my expectations for those, but also how to have hope.
I met one crush on the that I am on app and matched and befriended her. I was talking to her five days ago and we really hit it off. We talked about pets and travel and quarantine stuff and she seemed to interested in me and even asked questions about me. But sadly, she seems to have not read my messages. I really seem to think she has ghosted the app. I really want to hold out hope while keeping expectations, how do I do that without being upset? I am asking this because I matched with another girl I hope to connect with in the long term. Again, I matched with her today.
Why do I fall for people so hard so much? Not crazy BPD levels, but get anxious and go through this all in my head? How do I get out of what I call a hope despair cycle? I get my hopes up to high and then I fall down low. I also try to convince myself not to get in that cycle by saying that probably this is gonna happen again and thinking of the worst scenario but that’s not helping. So how can I help myself in that situation? I genuinely want to hope and want the best out of this, but I don’t know what the outcome is.
First of all, based on the info, do you think the first girl will eventually come back and if not will the second one like me too (I will give her a chance because she has not responded yet and its daytime there and nighttime my time because long story about my situation). Would really like help thanks!
Also, my therapist is out and we are having some talks about moving to one therapist in Austria (yes because I want to go back to the US but I’m in Austria because of COVID) and we had a little conflict a previous meet up.