Everglow - that's great that you're feeling so good and having fun! I hope you enjoy going to the movies with this boy! =) What movie are you going to see?
Some of the way you talk about sex sounds rather de-powering to you, though. For example, this idea that he has to work for "it" instead of you giving "it". This makes it sound like if he does x, y, and z steps, then he's earned and deserves "it" from you. Are you not involved in every step of the process? Do you not have to give
consent for whatever activities you two partake in together
? Do you not have a say in what you are comfortable with as much as he has a say in what he's comfortable with? Sex, foreplay, intimacy - none of these are one-sided tasks. They are - or should be - an ongoing conversation of boundaries, comfort, and respect between the two of you.
As well, you keep talking about not wanting to be "easy". I know you don't mean it - and likely don't even realize it - but "easy" regarding sex tends to have misogynistic connotations that shame women for their sexual independence and having sexual desires in general. What if a woman does have sex without knowing someone for long? Does that somehow make her lesser? Deserving of shame? Yes, our culture often treats the answers to these questions as "yes" - but that doesn't make this true or right to do so! Women deserve to have agency over their own bodies, and that includes being able to have sex with willing partners when they want to. Think about it - when you talk about being "easy", you're probably not really applying that to boys or men, like your boyfriend, right?
Certainly nobody here is trying to convince you to have sex! It's absolutely fine to not have sex! It's fine to not want to have sex! It's fine to want to have sex but want to wait to have sex! As long as you are getting to make decisions about your own body (and respecting other people's boundaries about their bodies), then that's great.
But I think we do also want you to know that it's also
okay if you do want to have sex and if you do have sex. It doesn't make you lesser or "dirty" or "impure" or "easy". It just makes you a person who wanted to have sex and so had sex. Does that make sense?
If you're up for it, Impurity Culture: Surviving Virginity
might be a good place to start with breaking down some of the potentially unhealthy things that you've subconsciously been learning about sex and your own self as a sexual being. =)
And if you're reading this after you went to the movies - how did your date go? Did you have fun (having fun is such a great goal! I really like that you said that!)?