Hello! Thank you for taking the time to read my post, even though it probably seems like a very common issue... And to some extent, it is. Problem is, I still can't work out what to try next, so I figured I might as well give this a shot.
So, I'm a hetero cis-female 21yr old, I'm a virgin (in every sense of the word haha), I've never been in a romantic or sexual relationship and I've never had any sexual experiences, hell, I've never even held hands with a guy! The lack of romantic or sexual experience in my life is not for lack of interest in it by the way, it's just never really happened.
I do read smut though. Well, I'm not sure what the best word to describe what I read is - usually romantic stories that come with smut and sexual content I guess (wattpad anyone?
). And it definitely turns me on, that much I know.
As I have been experiencing that arousal more and more, I've wanted to address it, I guess its a natural response to have a physical urge to do something about the feeling. My problem is that I have tried everything under the sun (well, I'm exaggerating, but you know) and for the life of me, I can't work out what works. I have read all the posts and articles about how to masturbate and things to try, I've had time to myself to take it slow and relax while reading content that turns me on. The second I go to try any of the methods I've prepared (i.e. I don't need to stop reading or anything to get going), the physical feelings lessen or disappear all together! I've been trying on and off for almost 5 months now and even when I'm relaxed and enjoying myself, I can never 'address' the feeling, it's just a medium level of physical arousal that I want to do something about but can't. I'm not that frustrated by it all, I'm just confused...
Do I just give up for now and try again in a year
? Do I wait until I have done physical things with a guy and then try again? It's just such a useless feeling to feel turned on and then just get that far, I want
to enjoy it properly because my body is telling me I'm doing something it likes.
I don't know hahaha, I'm running out of ideas. Any thoughts?
Thanks in advance <3