an issue that has arisen recently is my own self-consciousness and dysphoria around receiving oral sex. my boyfriend (who is a cis gay guy) has told me a couple times he’d be willing to do oral on me, and this is something i want, but i’ve found, at least when thinking about it, that dysphoria is standing in the way of asking for it. when i’m feeling self conscious i sometimes feel like my being trans somehow invalidates him as a gay guy, especially when i think about the very apparent contrasts between me and him — he’s a very masculine guy, and i’m pre-t and it makes me feel bleh sometimes. i’m currently seeing a gender-specializing therapist and we’re working on a strategy to get my (incredibly) unsupportive mother on board with medical transition, which i think will help with a lot of these bad feelings i sometimes get that dysphoria causes. but until then, how could i work around these feelings to feel good about asking for and during oral sex? thank you!!