hi! i guess for some background info, im 14 and asexual. i’ve never really felt much sexual attraction and i’ve never really had interest in sex with a partner, but i still get horny (for lack of a better term) and i’ve been trying to start masturbating and feeling more comfortable doing so after years of feeling shame around my thoughts/urges. i have a few questions regarding these topics (i hope thats ok and i hope this is the place to do this sort of thing, still trying to navigate this site lol)
1: i cant seem to find my clit. like the other day i tried touching myself (didn’t really work lol) and i couldn’t seem to find my clit, or i did find my clit and it didn’t feel how i expected it to. how does the clit feel when touching it with your hands? like does it feel like a sort of bump or something else? and how can i go about finding it? when i was trying to find it i felt sort of a bump around where the clit most likely should be, but i dont know if that was actually my clit or not
2: what do i listen to while i masturbate? im not sure what would be best to listen to bc i definitely need some sort of bg noise while i do it, but idk what would be best and what would keep me in the mood and not distract me.
3: can and/or how can you diy like a dildo or vibrator or something? just something to stick up yer holes. i haven’t tried zerking off enough to know if whether or not the ol fingers or something else will do it for me, but im asking just incase i need a backup plan.
4: and lastly, any tips on feeling more comfortable and feeling less shame as an asexual that gets horny and masturbates and stuff, but doesn’t want sex?
i hope this isn’t too many questions and i’ll probably have more in the future as i am very new to this, but thank you in advance to whoever responds!