I'm happy to talk about this with you here, and I'm glad to hear you're feeling a little better already.
So, per this person you have met -- no matter what age people are or how much sexual experience they have had -- there's no one kind of sex everyone likes, wants or must have, no one right or wrong timetable, and no "correct" when it comes to this. Instead, in every developing relationship, including the sexual relationship we have by ourselves, we want to work with pacing that feels good for everyone (not just one person), exploring the things we want to and learning what feels good or not -- to us, in the relationship, to the other person -- as we go. Honestly, it's easy to be really blase when you talk about sex if it's not offering you a whole lot, and just doing things we think we are supposed to or that everyone else is generally isn't all that enriching for folks, you know? Too, rushing into genital intercourse is rarely great for anyone. For any kind of sex to be good between people, they really need to be able to be connecting and communicating, and, ideally, building trust, sexual communication, and an understanding of each other's bodies and sexualities gradually with less high-stakes activities. That's not only usually how people feel emotionally good about sex they have, but how they actually can learn to have sex everyone involved really enjoys. Make sense?
You can't do this wrong by leading with what you want and feels good for you, including the pace that works. We won't always be a fit with someone else's wants or pace, but that's okay -- we all always can just take a pass on relationships or interactions that don't meet our wants or needs, and by doing that, and looking for the opportunities that ARE the right fit, again, that's how we all find the good stuff.
It might help to know that most of what we even feel in our genitals is about our central nervous systems, and that other parts of the body have as much, or nearly as much, sensation as genitals do. It's not like genitals are the only way to experience or express sexuality: you mentioned kissing, which is one very common way that people do that, for instance (and lips have even more sensation than genitals sometimes!). This piece might be a good place to start when it comes to considering a different way of looking at and defining what sex is:
What's Sex?