hi,
i’m a 19 year old cis male. i recently had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, and she keeps saying how good it felt. i’m really glad that it felt good for her, and it was amazing being intimate with her, but physically it didn’t really feel good. i have the same problem when masturbating, in both cases i’m able to get off but it doesn’t feel good or bad, both during and after. as long as i can remember it’s been this way. i don’t find it to be an issue, i can still find pleasure in the emotional aspect of being intimate with someone i love. i’m wondering if its normal to have a lack of physical pleasure?
I don’t really feel anything
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Re: I don’t really feel anything
Hi Eonick,
I'd say, just from the questions we see here, struggles with pleasure during masturbation or partnered sex are common. So if you're not finding it to be an issue in your enjoyment of sex overall, then it's not something you need to go all-in on changing or troubleshooting. If you do want to talk about ways to bring more physical pleasure into sex, we can certainly brainstorm that, but if you're having fun as is there's no need to put pressure on yourself to experience sex the way you think you "should."
I'd say, just from the questions we see here, struggles with pleasure during masturbation or partnered sex are common. So if you're not finding it to be an issue in your enjoyment of sex overall, then it's not something you need to go all-in on changing or troubleshooting. If you do want to talk about ways to bring more physical pleasure into sex, we can certainly brainstorm that, but if you're having fun as is there's no need to put pressure on yourself to experience sex the way you think you "should."
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