no sensation when masturbating

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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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How about when you exercise? One tool used for kids with hyposensitivity is "heavy work" - anything that involves moving with or against resistance. As you get older, different kinds of exercise or physical work can provide additional sensory input - and lots of people get a kind of rush from exercise.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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I really only go on runs for excercise, I don't like how anything else makes me feel. (other than swimming but I haven't been able to go swim for a few years.)
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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What a bummer about the swimming!

Would it be helpful for us to try and brainstorm other kinds of "heavy work" that you could try?
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Maybe? Wouldn't hurt to try, though my options for what I can actually do are limited, so there's no guarantee I'll be able to do any of it.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Hey again Crow -- can you clarify what you mean by that? Do you have any limitations of your physical mobility, or are you not sure what kind of physical activity you have space/equipment/etc to do? This will help us brainstorm some ideas with you.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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It's mostly an issue of space and equipment, though while I don't have an mobility issues I do get very exhausted quite easily at times which sometimes leads to fainting, so I wouldn't want to do anything that would push me too much.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Hey there, Crow. I'm popping in to see if I can help here. I am all too familiar with mobility and fatigue challenges.

While I recognize some things might not be a good fit per overstimulation, I'm wondering if you might have access to sex toys or anyone who could access them for you?
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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no unfortunately, I already discussed the idea with some others but I just wouldn't have a way to access them currently.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Hi Crow,

Heather likely has additional thoughts to share, but I was wondering if you've ever had the chance to look into exercise or movement resources designed for folks specifically with mobility or fatigue challenges?
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Not really, it hasn't been something that has interested me enough previously to look into it.
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Re: no sensation when masturbating

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Got it. Here are two that you could look into and see if they offer things that are workable in your situation: https://accessibleyoga.org/, https://sworkit.com/. The second one comes recommended by other folks with mobility challenges, so hopefully you could customize it to work for you.
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