my partner and i have been in a romantic relationship for a few months, and close friends for a few years. we’re incredibly happy together, and we work really hard to make sure our relationship stays happy and healthy in as many ways as we can.
we started doing sexual things almost immediately after becoming romantic partners, to the dismay and embarrassment of my mother (who’s actually just fine with it, as long as we are safe and we don’t do things while she’s home...back to that later). we both have our kinks and we are both comfortable and even excited to explore those things with each other, and despite us being reckless teenagers who got sub-par school sex ed, we try our best to be as safe and as healthy as possible with our sexual relationship (i just got a birth control implant the other week!)
overall, we’re really happy together and we’re in a healthy relationship, and we work hard to keep it that way for as long as we can!
the issue arises with the frequency of our sexual encounters.
to keep things short, we do sexual things a LOT. there’s a very high chance we’ll end up doing something sexual if we see each other, even if we didn’t plan for it and even if PEOPLE ARE AT MY HOUSE :/
we’ve discussed maybe planning for a movie date or a hiking outing or something, as a distraction, which works.
i’ve always had a very high sex drive for various reasons, and now that i’m on testosterone HRT it has only increased. i know there’s not much i can do about that, and that’s okay! there’s nothing wrong with it.
but...is there an issue with doing sexual things ALL THE TIME? we do other things in the relationship of course, and it’s definitely not a case of having sex because we’re bored or anything. we both just... get Bothered
and then end up doing sexy stuff for however long. there’s DEFINITELY an issue with doing sexual stuff while my mom or other people are over, that’s for sure.
should we decrease how often we do sexual things? is this an issue, or a non-issue i’m worrying too much about? if it’s not an issue, how can we at least discipline ourselves to be a little bit safer with sex, and be more respectful when people are over?
this may seem like an overly anxious rant but i wanna make sure our relationship is as healthy as it can be!