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Unread post by pianolover »

My bf and I were having sex and mentioned he was going to cum, and then seconds pass, and we were still having sex, and I didn't want to stop, but I felt like I should check in to see if he did because we would need to change the condom. He lied about not having an orgasm because he wanted to keep going and then admitted to lying after. I do not really know how to feel about this. It was an awkward and uncomfortable situation.
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Hi pianolover,

I can see why this is uncomfortable, as discovering a partner was dishonest with us during sex, especially about something to do with contraception is really unpleasant. Have you talked to him at all about what happened and how you're feeling? And has he done things like this in the past, or was this the first time?
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Yeah we talked about it and he hasn't done this before,
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Okay, how did you feel after that talk? And do you have a sense of how you want to take things from here with him?
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Unread post by pianolover »

Honestly Sam I have no clue, heh
The talk went sideways and then forward and then backward. I do not know what to do. I'm only 19
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Unread post by Sam W »

That's okay! Sometimes tricky situations bring up all sorts of conflicting or difficult feelings, and that can leave us feeling kind of stuck in terms of what to do. When you describe the conversation going that way, what did you each say during it? Did you come to any kind of resolution at the end?
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