Is it bad to be a 16 year old boy who's into the submissive side of BDSM?

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Is it bad to be a 16 year old boy who's into the submissive side of BDSM?

Unread postby P_2_dsx » Thu Feb 04, 2021 4:24 pm


I'm 16 years old and since the age of 12 have been fascinated by the idea of BDSM. Being a boy, you'd probably expect me to be interested in games and the like but no. And even if you knew I was interested in BDSM you'd probably assume I was a dominant. But no.

I am nearing the end of high school and am beginning to start Alevels and thinking about my future. But back to the topic.

I really want some advice and help about this as I am scared do telling my parents as I fear they won't like it.

All I want to know is, is what I like normal?

Please note: I don't partake in any bdsm activities at all and would only consider this at the age of 21. However I do things on my own but this doesn't include anything that could harm me or is illegal (crawling around the house in minimal clothing when my parents are out and wearing my collar when they are out).

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Re: Is it bad to be a 16 year old boy who's into the submissive side of BDSM?

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Feb 05, 2021 8:06 am

Hi P_2_dsx,

Nothing you're describing sounds bad or like a problem. Being curious about or interested in different sexual things is pretty common for someone your age. And as far as the submissive element goes, people of all genders can be into any given element of BDSM (or sex in general).

You'll notice I'm not using the word "normal." That's because normal is a word we tend to steer clear of when talking about sex, because sexuality is so diverse that normal becomes a pretty useless term. You can read more about that here, if you're curious: ... _who_cares.

You mention being scared to tell your parents about this. Is there a reason you feel like you need to tell them?

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