why does it take me so long to orgasm?

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why does it take me so long to orgasm?

Unread postby zodiakku » Wed Dec 02, 2020 3:42 am

When I masturbate it usually takes me 30-45 minutes to reach orgasm, sometimes an hour. Is this normal? I feel like it’s too long. The orgasm itself is just fine and in no way unsatisfying but it’s frustrating me that I always take so long to finish. For context, I masturbate regularly/almost daily, been this way for so long I can remember and I’m not in any medication.

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Re: why does it take me so long to orgasm?

Unread postby Sofi » Wed Dec 02, 2020 7:47 pm

Hi zodiakku,
It's not uncommon at all! It's far more common in people with a vulva than people with a penis, but can happen to either. It's often related to how comfortable and relaxed you are in the moment, which is partly why it is easier for most people to orgasm alone than with a partner. With masturbation, sometimes switching it up is all it takes - add a new toy or technique to the session, or even try watching something that arouses you that you haven't masturbated to before. Make sure you're comfortable and aroused, and don't get frustrated or annoyed, be patient with your body.

Here's a helpful article about masturbation and orgasm:

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