Mo wrote:There are some medications, especially some types of antidepressants like SSRIs, that can change sexual response and make orgasm underwhelming or difficult to achieve. I don't know if you're taking any medication like that, but it's something I wanted to flag in case you are.
When you're masturbating, are you doing it when you're already feeling pretty aroused?
Sam W wrote:Ooof, I know from folks in my own life that Lexapro alone can make it harder to masturbate orgasm. I think it's really sound that your therapist is approaching this both from the medication angle and from the internal thoughts and feelings angle. It sounds like you're making progress talking to her about it, which is awesome!
What if, for the next little while, you aimed to only masturbate when you were feeling arousal (even if it's mostly the simmering kind)? Our brains play such a big role in how we experience pleasure that if they're not super engaged and aroused, masturbation is unlikely to feel great or lead to orgasm. Too, once you start masturbating, is it pretty easy to fall into a fantasy or other thoughts that keep you turned on? Or does your brain kind of space out or start worrying/thinking about other stuff?
Alexa wrote:I just want to reassure you that there isn't one "right" way to experience arousal. A lot of people experience pleasure from clitoral stimulation primarily or alone. As for subtle versus intense arousal, I think that's pretty subjective and you're not experiencing arousal the "wrong way," if that makes sense.
I wonder if thinking a lot about how you can/should get aroused, when/how often this happens, and whether masturbation is "properly" satisfactory is contributing to stress that is making it, ultimately, harder to feel pleasure. I agree with Sam that not pressuring yourself to be aroused or masturbate can be a good start re: helping relieve this pressure on yourself.
To that end, do you want to talk a bit more about when and how these concerns that you're having lackluster orgasms/not masturbating correctly arose for you? Maybe we can help dispel some of those myths. <3
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