I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

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I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Unread postby Sky H » Wed Aug 19, 2020 7:07 am

So I'm transfeminine and pre everything, and I really want to masturbate, it used to be fun and it felt great before, but my dysphoria about my body worsened recently. Now it is just a really dysphoric experience and it feels awful. Also just having such a strong sex drive makes me dysphoric.

Is there a way I can masturbate that would not make me feel that way?

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Re: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Unread postby KurtisC » Wed Aug 19, 2020 7:43 am

Hi Sky,

I can relate a little to those feelings. One thing I find helps is the naming of body parts in our minds - after all, genitals are pretty much the same thing deep down. Do you think of yours as a clitoris, in your mind?

In terms of masturbation, it may also help to remember that a person with one set of genitals and one with another can actually touch themselves in very similar ways; staying on the outside of the body and rubbing the clitoris in some way - whether some people may call that clitoris a penis or not.

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Re: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Unread postby Jacob » Wed Aug 19, 2020 10:41 am

Thanks for replying to this Kurtis, that feels like some really good advice.

I'm trying to think about if there's anything I can add. My main thought is to see if there are any general comforts that could lessen the impact of dysphoria, like any reducing outside stressers or improving the environment you're masturbating in so that it feels nice and comfortable and you already feel like youre being good to yourself before you get down to it?
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Don't see why they call it lonesome.
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Re: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Unread postby Heather » Wed Aug 19, 2020 11:14 am

Hey, Sky. Sorry you're having a hard time in this arena.

This piece isn't about masturbation, but I wonder if you'd seen it just as far as some good places to start with frameworks for all this?

https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodi ... t_girldick
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