I'm glad it all went well and health-wise, you're now completely on the other side of it.
The machine is called a vacuum aspirator, and it usually looks something like this
https://bit.ly/2FIC8wd: or this:
https://bit.ly/2NjpCr0 If you're curious, "MVA" is a term for
manual vacuum aspiration, a way of doing surgical abortion before or without those machines, with a handheld aspirator that usually looks like this:
https://bit.ly/2TfbhzD
They both work -- handheld or electrical -- like any other kind of suction device does.
This page has more details if you want them, and the second video on that page does a good job of showing (with models, not actual bodies) how this kind of abortion works, showing a manual aspirator:
https://apps.carleton.edu/student/orgs/ ... surgabort/ It's basically the same with an electrical aspirator, the clinician just doesn't have to make the suction happen manually.
It is very clear and explicit, even though it's not happening on a real person, so you'll decide if you're comfortable watching a surgical education video. Not everyone can (if I ever wanted to get my partner to clear a room without having to ask, all I'd need to do is turn on Grey's Anatomy).
I think you get to tell this partner or not, I just want to repeat that. But I also think that you choosing to terminate a pregnancy shouldn't destroy him, and also probably wouldn't. I'm not saying you should tell him: you're clear you don't want to and it also sounds clearly like you don't think he could handle it. Rather, I personally would vote for only picking to be sexual with people who wouldn't be that way, or who you didn't have to worry might be.
If it helps to have an anecdotal example about how to do that, for much of my life, when I have had sexual partners where pregnancy is possible, I've usually told them that they should know that if I were to get pregnant, I'd a) be needing to make my own choice with that, and would need to be considered entirely sovereign in that regard, and b) that they should know and be okay with the fact that I'd most likely terminate the pregnancy. Even just seeing how someone reacts to that before I heard what they had to say often told me all I needed to know: anyone who didn't like that, couldn't deal with that, or just seemed super-uncomfortable? Not the best people for me to be sexual with. Our sexual relationships and the things that happen in them just tend to go a lot better -- I say this from personal experience as well as from what I observe at this job -- when we're all on the same page about this stuff, or at least awfully close to it. Know what I mean?