How have y’all settled on your pronoun(s)? I’m trying to find something that I’m okay with and is plausible for others to use for me.
I used to like they/them, but it’s caused me so much distress and fear that it no longer feels like a good thing.
I like some neopronouns (e/em and fae/faer), but it’s almost a guarantee that no one will follow those, especially if they/them is too difficult.
Some days, I feel like an it, but not in a good way. These are just my feelings on how I would feel about using it pronouns, not a judgement about those who use it. I feel like a thing, especially when take my feelings about gender as a political stance. It feels like my label overshadows me as a person, and I become an it. I don’t think I’d use it pronouns for me, but sometimes I feel like an it.
I’d prefer no pronouns from people who don’t know me, but I wouldn’t want that from people I know regularly. It’s the whole “I have one name, don’t wear it out” thing.
Any pronouns I guess is okay, expect then people default to she/her, which leads me to the standard binary pronouns.
He/him isn’t really for me. I never have been and don’t ever see myself as a he/him.
That leaves she/her, the “default” pronouns for me because I’m AFAB. It’s nice because it’s not instantly outing, but it can be effacing. I think there was a post where someone said, “I’m not she like a lady but she like a ship,” and that describes my feelings about it. I understand that I’m probably going to have to get over people using she/her for me, so it helps me to think about other things that use she/her that aren’t people (more common in gendered Romance languages, but the ship example works in English).
That was a bit of a ramble, but does anyone else have stories about how they ended up with the pronouns they use?