Sam W wrote:Hi Sky H,
Dysphoria can be such a pain, and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. So I can get a sense of what your supports are like, are you currently seeing a mental health provider? And do you have many connections to other transfeminine folks, either in your area or online?
Can I ask what particular things you're missing for tucking? Too, have you noticed that things like wearing certain underwear or using certain terms for your genitals (even if it's just in your own head) seem to help lessen the dysphoria? And do you notice the dysphoria only cropping up when you think of your body in certain contexts?
No, I'm not seeing a mental health provider, I'm probably not going to be able to for a while. And no, I don't know a single transfeminine person.
So I don't have gaff. I don't want to use tape because I'd have to shave down there, which makes me uncomfortable and kinda dysphoric. But also honestly, I'm scared of tucking, more specifically that I'll hurt myself somehow.
Different underwear doesn't help, a weird thing is that feminine underwear makes me even more uncomfortable.
Using different terms helps, but only when dysphoria is mild, when it's strong it doesn't help at all.
I'm not sure what do you mean by "when you think of your body in certain contexts".