So my boyfriend and I tried some new stuff. He fingered me and I gave him a hand job. It was actually all a good experience, which made me happy.
The fingering felt good at first, then it was uncomfortable and I told him to stop, which he did right away. But after a few minutes I was ready to try again and it ended up feeling much better. Is it normally supposed to be both painful and pleasurable at the same time? Because for me it was painful but in a good way if that makes sense, and I wanted to know if that’s usually how it feels. I’m guessing that the next time will be less uncomfortable because it will no longer be a completely new experience.
I bled a tiny bit afterwards and I wanted to ask why that is - I know it’s fairly normal but I wanted to know the reasons of why it happens after manual sex.
I also wanted to ask how I can know if I’m close to coming. I feel like I was close when he fingered me after we took a break but I wasn’t sure. It didn’t feel like the spasms I’ve had when masturbating. I’m really clueless because obviously orgasms are different for everyone, and I can’t seem to find an article that explains exactly how it feels.
Also, what do I call myself now? Still a virgin? Not a virgin? I think virginity is a word that’s a little outdated. But like if someone asks what do I say? I mean, I did just have penetrative manual sex so like... I’m not a virgin in the sense that I’m innocent anymore, am I?