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by Sam W
Mon Feb 13, 2017 5:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Family life going crazy for virginity
Replies: 1
Views: 1313

Re: Family life going crazy for virginity

Hi there, The truth is, there is no way to tell if someone is a virgin other than asking them. You can read about why that is here: You Can't Test For Virginity In fact, virginity is not even one, agreed upon thing. Some people define virginity as not having engaged in penetration, others as not hav...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 13, 2017 4:41 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: breast cancer signs?
Replies: 1
Views: 3129

Re: breast cancer signs?

Hi Muidet,

This isn't something we can diagnose over the internet. As a general rule, if the patch gets larger or starts to hurt, or isn't going away after a week or so, it's time to see what low-cost or sliding scale health care you can access and have a healthcare provider look at it.
by Sam W
Mon Feb 13, 2017 4:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm straight but I'm also not
Replies: 6
Views: 2672

Re: I'm straight but I'm also not

Hi Maria, I'd agree that when you're at the point of kissing someone every time you go out, there's definitely some attraction going on there, which indicates your identity as being maybe a little different than you thought in the past. The truth is, only you get to decide what label you're comforta...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 13, 2017 4:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help
Replies: 8
Views: 3261

Re: Help

Hi Maria, I'm not certain if Heather had specific resources in mind, but these are two helplines you could try calling: National Institute of Mental Health Information Center 866-615-6464 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST, Monday to Friday http://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml National Mental Health Association Ho...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 11, 2017 7:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: EC, periods, and anxiety
Replies: 4
Views: 1579

Re: EC, periods, and anxiety

I would recommend that you do raise this with your counselor the next time you see them. They can give you tools for managing the anxiety you have around pregnancy (other than not engaging in sexual activities that you know cause you stress). If you feel awkward saying the subject out loud, you can ...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 11, 2017 7:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: EC, periods, and anxiety
Replies: 4
Views: 1579

Re: EC, periods, and anxiety

Hi Cranberrykiller,

Yes, a common side-effect of EC is that it throws off your cycle for a little while. Unfortunately, there's no way to predict when that side-effect will wear off. You simply have to be patient, and maybe do some self-care, in the meantime: Self-Care a La Carte
by Sam W
Sat Feb 11, 2017 6:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Where do I find BDSM support?
Replies: 1
Views: 2195

Re: Where do I find BDSM support?

Hi Kasha,

Depending on the type of question, we may actually be able to help you out here (we've addressed different BDSM topics and issues on different parts of the site). What things were you curious about?
by Sam W
Sat Feb 11, 2017 6:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to tell the signs of pregnancy from that of period
Replies: 1
Views: 1324

Re: Unable to tell the signs of pregnancy from that of period

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 11, 2017 6:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: EC, periods, and anxiety
Replies: 4
Views: 1579

EC, periods, and anxiety

Hi Cranberry Killer, The first two, small things I wanted to address are, first, that there is nothing you can eat that will induce your period because that's not how periods work (you can read about how they do work here On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation ). The other is that, with EC, there's no ...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 10, 2017 5:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I tried fingering me but I don't know?
Replies: 3
Views: 3035

Re: I tried fingering me but I don't know?

Hi Maeve, The white secretion you saw on your finger was just your vaginal discharge, something totally normal to have. And yes, some people find that the sensitivity of their clitoris makes it uncomfortable to touch it. My first suggestion, if you have not tried it already, is to start by taking a ...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 10, 2017 5:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control side effects
Replies: 1
Views: 1065

Re: Birth control side effects

Hi Arasia, There are a couple of things that sound like they are contributing to your confusion. The first is that, while there are some common side effects of birth control methods, everybody's body reacts a little differently, meaning that one person could gain weight while another could not while...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 10, 2017 5:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i think i might be pregnant
Replies: 1
Views: 762

Re: i think i might be pregnant

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Fri Feb 10, 2017 5:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Virginity
Replies: 0
Views: 2305

Virginity

Hi Samham, You mentioned in your other post that you're not sure if you're still a virgin or not. The thing is, virginity is not a concrete, physical thing. It's a social construct, an idea that people made up. Because of that, different people define "losing" their virginity in different ...
by Sam W
Thu Feb 09, 2017 7:05 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Self-care anthems!
Replies: 6
Views: 5795

Re: Self-care anthems!

Capablehippie, I love Marina and the Diamonds!

Mine are "Don't Carry It All" by the Decemberists ("June Hymn" works too, but only on warm days. On cold days it makes me sad) and This Year" by the Mountain Goats
by Sam W
Thu Feb 09, 2017 6:18 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Well...this is awkward...
Replies: 1
Views: 1258

Re: Well...this is awkward...

Hi Bobby, So, here's the thing: if you were to come to the boards with a question about sex, relationships, bodies, or any of the other topics that are our focus area, we would answer that question. Political alignment does not automatically bar you from getting help and support here. But if you wer...
by Sam W
Thu Feb 09, 2017 6:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: breakups
Replies: 6
Views: 1689

Re: breakups

Hi Woodpecker, Breakups, no matter how much they may be needed, can leave you feeling pretty raw. And when the breakup is fresh, it's normal to think back on the good times of the relationship and miss those parts. We've got this article that might be really helpful right now: Getting Through a Brea...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 07, 2017 9:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: turned on feeling goes away with masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 808

Re: turned on feeling goes away with masturbation

Hi notbella, There's nothing wrong with not enjoying masturbation or masturbating infrequently. In the situation you described, there could be a few things going on. One is that the dryness you felt means you needed a bit more lube, and the dryness itself can cause discomfort which diminishes or kil...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sti testing
Replies: 3
Views: 1481

Re: Sti testing

Yep, that's great!
by Sam W
Tue Feb 07, 2017 7:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How Do I Socialize
Replies: 4
Views: 2178

Re: How Do I Socialize

You're welcome :) There's no perfect way to jump in to a conversation. One thing I'd recommend is that when you're introducing yourself to people, casually mention that this is your first time coming to this event. You can also ask people how they found out about the group, where they're from, or wh...
by Sam W
Tue Feb 07, 2017 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sti testing
Replies: 3
Views: 1481

Re: Sti testing

Hi amandat,

No, the lubricant should not affect the results of the test. To check, was the sex you had before the appointment with a barrier (like a condom)?
by Sam W
Tue Feb 07, 2017 6:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How Do I Socialize
Replies: 4
Views: 2178

Re: How Do I Socialize

Hi Jackojacko, As someone who has dealt with social anxiety, I feel you on how stressful an event like this can be. I have two suggestions to start with. The first is to focus less on coming up with things to say and more on asking people questions. That gives you a chance to learn about them and fe...
by Sam W
Mon Feb 06, 2017 7:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Plan b questions
Replies: 41
Views: 11015

Re: Plan b questions

Hi lucli, If the pill is marketed as emergency contraception, then it should produce the same effect. As Heather said in their first answer, if you want to increase your level of protection, taking emergency contraception sooner rather than later is your best bet. I think this piece may help with so...
by Sam W
Sat Feb 04, 2017 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth control pill query
Replies: 5
Views: 2135

Re: Birth control pill query

Hi Angeldelight,

You can find out how protection occurs during the placebo period here: How do birth control pills really work, even during the placebo period?

And yes, assuming there are no gaps between pill packs, there should be no decrease in effectiveness.
by Sam W
Sat Feb 04, 2017 6:46 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Having sex in Heels?
Replies: 2
Views: 1684

Re: Having sex in Heels?

Hi Kittypink,

It's not automatically unsafe, but you'd need to take extra care not to accidentally kick your partner with them on, and be careful of positions that require more balance (as it's easier to get unbalanced and fall/trip in heels).
by Sam W
Fri Feb 03, 2017 5:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sex toy store?
Replies: 7
Views: 3711

Re: sex toy store?

The simplest route might be to call the store and ask them their policy and what the laws are.

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