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by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 2:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

No, that’s not a thing that birth control methods do. It’s more likely that you have interest in sex for some of the same reasons people most often do, some of which is chemical — our own bodies produce those neuro chemical substances, we don’t need pills for that — some is social, some is about int...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 2:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?
Replies: 2
Views: 697

Re: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?

Virginity is a social construct. What it means is wholly subjective, so if it’s a construct you choose to use, it truly is up to you what it means. People have been making this particular thing up based on what they want from the beginning. “Innocence” as something that is about how sexual people ha...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 9:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2361

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

If you want to talk about managing your rights and your parents around dating, I'm happy to. You probably don't need me to tell you that at 18, unless she has extended legal guardianship over you, your mother doesn't actually get to decide that for you anymore, and so obviously there's some kind of ...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 6:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: advice
Replies: 18
Views: 1779

Re: advice

Well, not forever, no. If someone just kept forever having uterine bleeding it would not be from a period. People can have periods that last for weeks sometimes, though.

But how long are we talking for you right now? Mind, I still think you should follow up with the advised tests.
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 909

Re: Masturbation

Happy to give it. We're here if and when you've got any other questions or concerns! <3
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 3:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 909

Re: Masturbation

There really isn't a "right" here, I absolutely promise. The only "wrong" is really if it hurts you in some way physically, makes you feel bad emotionally instead of good or okay, or if something about it is messing up your life. In any of those cases. Get what I mean? How any of...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 1:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 909

Re: Masturbation

Sure. Especially right now in the world. Unfortunately, one of the things masturbation really can't provide is companionship, since, unless we're doing it with someone else, it's something where we're alone. But it can certainly create an array of feelings -- physical sensation, obviously, but also ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 1:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 909

Re: Masturbation

Hi there, Jenny, welcome to the boards. (I lived in Minneapolis for about six years and loved it -- say hi for me!) You know, there truly is no "should" here, just like there isn't a should when it comes to how eating should feel, how taking a walk should feel, or how having a conversation...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 12:54 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Feeling nervous about my libido
Replies: 1
Views: 986

Re: Feeling nervous about my libido

Hey there, eep. Welcome to the boards. I'm glad you've found us. I think we can potentially be one place you can start to feel more comfortable when it comes to all of this, including whatever amount or frequency of sexual desire you have. I'm really sorry to hear the way you've felt about it in the...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 10:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2093

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

I was wondering about this part - because it's not like when we just started to have sex it felt great and exciting, but over time the spark faded away. Reflecting back, I think this feeling of missing something has always been present, it's just that at the start I dismissed at as us not yet being...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 10:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchiness
Replies: 1
Views: 232

Re: Itchiness

Hey there, destiny: welcome to the boards. It's not likely that your pubic hair is the issue when it comes to the itchiness if it hasn't been an issue before, and we can be sure it isn't the cause of changes to discharge, which start inside the vagina. It might well be that you're going to need a he...
by Heather
Tue Mar 09, 2021 8:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Parent of gay 9 year old asking for advice
Replies: 11
Views: 1182

Re: Parent of gay 9 year old asking for advice

Sam: thanks for mentioning Flamingo Rampant! Bear (the publisher) is a personal friend of mine and I feel like such a dope to have left them out!

They also are producing their very first puberty book for this next season, so I expect it to be a winner!
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:45 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can I expect my first time being fingered?
Replies: 13
Views: 2460

Re: What can I expect my first time being fingered?

You know, it literally is harder for your body to be responsive in the cold, because cold doesn't play nice with blood circulation! So in a way, it might not turn everyone off, but it certainly keeps everyone from being fully turned on! I'm glad you'll have that space and time. So, the next thing is...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling needy
Replies: 7
Views: 1424

Re: Feeling needy

Happy to help. :)
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can I expect my first time being fingered?
Replies: 13
Views: 2460

Re: What can I expect my first time being fingered?

It's okay. No one can tell you how to touch a body that isn't there's ultimately. We learn how to touch someone else in ways that we and they like by both communicating and experimenting with them. When this is actually something you want to do, do you two have the privacy and environment to be able...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 1:11 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2093

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

This is all really helpful. So, riffing back based on what I'm picking up from you here, I feel like I'm picking up on a few possibilities: 1) It might be that because you've been in this relationship for a while now, you're dealing with things just feeling...well, like you've said in your last sent...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 12:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2093

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

Hey there, welcome to the boards! So glad we've been helpful to you so far. Let's see what we can do to help with this. One thing that really got my attention here is that you talked about really being engulfed in the experience that one time: do you have any sense of if that time it was so much abo...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 10:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling needy
Replies: 7
Views: 1424

Re: Feeling needy

I really am feeling like what you're describing as "needy" -- generally a pejorative concept and term -- is just you wanting to be touched. Skin hunger is a normal, human thing, most people have it, and during the pandemic, many of us have it even more than usual, because we've lost so muc...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 9:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2361

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

You know, I just want to add my two cents, which you can take or leave. I do feel a little concerned that if you don't make *some* distance and space from this, you might start to find it harder and harder to move away from your fantasy relationship to pursue actual relationships which can offer you...
by Heather
Fri Mar 05, 2021 2:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Water and Sperm
Replies: 1
Views: 686

Re: Water and Sperm

You know, if people are living with you, you want to wash your hands with warm water and soap, period. Sperm or no sperm, because the bacteria that can live on our hands is what can actually spread things between people, unlike sperm cells, which can't do anything that way. So, please wash your hand...
by Heather
Fri Mar 05, 2021 10:53 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: i tried masturbating but couldnt ? is there something wrong with my vag
Replies: 3
Views: 956

Re: i tried masturbating but couldnt ? is there something wrong with my vag

Happy to help. Do you have any other questions I can help you with?
by Heather
Thu Mar 04, 2021 1:57 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penetration pain?
Replies: 23
Views: 2518

Re: Penetration pain?

Happy to give it as always. :)
by Heather
Thu Mar 04, 2021 1:09 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penetration pain?
Replies: 23
Views: 2518

Re: Penetration pain?

Yep, nope! Gotta respect what your bodies are telling us. Pain generally is a message to stop, slow down or change what we're doing in some way, not press on. :) And yeah, the business of relaxing rather than tensing is something we just learn with practice. If you think about it, it makes sense to ...
by Heather
Thu Mar 04, 2021 1:07 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: i tried masturbating but couldnt ? is there something wrong with my vag
Replies: 3
Views: 956

Re: i tried masturbating but couldnt ? is there something wrong with my vag

Hey there, supercool_kid. Welcome to the boards. :) One of the coolest things I have ever seen in my whole life was an ultrasound of an embryo masturbating while still IN UTERO. No kidding. Even before we're born we touch our own bodies from a place of curiosity, pleasure, comfort, or all of the abo...
by Heather
Thu Mar 04, 2021 12:48 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Penetration pain?
Replies: 23
Views: 2518

Re: Penetration pain?

Heya. So, it might be a matter of needing to get used to it, yes. Especially if you're tensing up when you're doing this -- which is a pretty common thing to do -- instead of staying relaxed -- a thing you learn to do -- that can be one common reason for the kind of discomfort you're describing. Are...

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