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by Sam W
Wed Sep 03, 2014 9:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What's in Your Safer Sex Kit?
Replies: 4
Views: 2046

What's in Your Safer Sex Kit?

In Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To, we discussed why you should consider putting together a safer sex kit, and what things you can include in it. So, if you've got a safer sex kit, what do you keep in it?

Mine is pretty basic: External condoms, a dental dam, and lube.
by Sam W
Fri Aug 29, 2014 8:57 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What is love?
Replies: 6
Views: 4110

Re: What is love?

I actually started using "love" as a term much more broadly a few years ago, because it was clear that I felt love for my friends as well as my partner and I wanted to acknowledge that (this was part of a bigger project of reminding myself that my emotional life was not tied only to my rom...
by Sam W
Fri Aug 29, 2014 8:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble inserting tampons
Replies: 4
Views: 1875

Re: Trouble inserting tampons

Hi Rainbowskys, Since you would be using the just for inserting a tampon, you might look into oil based lubricants (like coconut oil) as they usually look more like "normal" house hold items. However, be aware that using oil based lubes can potentially trap bacteria in the vagina. It's har...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 28, 2014 9:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?
Replies: 8
Views: 5343

Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?

Now, this does not mean only discussing your personal sex life or sexual feelings. It can mean simply discussing issues around the politics of sex, or stuff like periods, STIs, and pregnancy in the abstract. So who, if anyone, do you feel comfortable talking about those topics with? Friends? Family?...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 26, 2014 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Replies: 28
Views: 6949

Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy

Hi Leelee, With pre-ejaculate, anything other than direct genital to genital contact with it is a non-risk. And no, sperm cannot reactivate themselves, nor are they particularly hard to wash off your hands (like you read in that article, they're actually pretty fragile). You may also want to check o...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 9:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Antibiotics and BC
Replies: 1
Views: 1125

Re: Antibiotics and BC

Hi Kristy, So, this type of sex will always pose some risk. However, you used three birth control methods, which means that your odds of pregnancy are really, really low. Even if your pill had been compromised somewhat (and the best person to ask about the chances of that is your healthcare provider...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Plan B and Period. Please help!!
Replies: 1
Views: 1014

Re: Plan B and Period. Please help!!

Hi Joski, One of the side-effects of plan B is that it can make your cycle unpredictable. So, the bleeding you're experiencing may very well be your period. However, there is no way for us to know for certain that that's the case. The way to for certain whether or not you're pregnant is to take a pr...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?
Replies: 3
Views: 1637

Re: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?

Hi Celica,

You're welcome :), and no, that does not change the grace period.
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First month of using the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 1822

Re: First month of using the pill

Hi Purplewookie, I'm going to quote from this article: Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) "When you first start the pill, when it will be fully effective depends both on when you start it, as well as your own body chemistry. For most people who start the pill either on the first day of the...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?
Replies: 3
Views: 1637

Re: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?

Hi Celica,

So, with combined pills, you actually have a 12 hour grace period before a pill is considered late. So an hour and a half is not going to compromise the effectiveness of your pill.
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 8:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I want to come out, but...
Replies: 8
Views: 4474

Re: I want to come out, but...

Ah, I follow. Okay, then maybe the most you can bank on from your dad is that he'll support your orientation so that you won't feel totally unsupported by your family? As for what questions to expect, that's a little tricky, and hopefully some of our users and other volunteers can add to what I'm ab...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 8:17 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Buying book(s)
Replies: 16
Views: 4489

Re: Buying book(s)

Hi Nitehawk,

You're welcome. I think it is worth it to weigh the most likely outcomes (both positive and negative) and then see if you feel like ordering the books is worth it.

Do your parents generally open mail or packages that come for you?
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 7:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Travel and Period Irregularity?
Replies: 3
Views: 1438

Re: Travel and Period Irregularity?

Hi repsev, There's no way for us to know for certain what the cause of the cramps might be. But, if you think you're due for a period, then that's definitely one possibility. However, if the cramps continue without seeming to link to a period or get significantly worse, you might want to check in wi...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 7:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I want to come out, but...
Replies: 8
Views: 4474

Re: I want to come out, but...

Hi Silentdragon, It sounds like you've already been working through the possible outcomes of your coming out, which is great! I think your decision to talk to your mom about your sexuality prior to a partner entering the picture is a sound one. One thing that might help you is to write out (literall...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 7:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Travel and Period Irregularity?
Replies: 3
Views: 1438

Re: Travel and Period Irregularity?

Hi repsev, Periods can vary in their arrival times for many reasons, although travel alone is unlikely to cause the irregularity. You can read about some of the most common reasons in the link below, but it can also help to remember that our bodies are not perfect machines, so you're cycle can be ir...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 21, 2014 7:13 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Buying book(s)
Replies: 16
Views: 4489

Re: Buying book(s)

Hi Nitehawk, This is a bit of a toughie, and hopefully some other folks might have some more suggestions. However, one thing I can think of is checking the library in your town (if you haven't already) to see if they have those two books, or if they can bring them in from another branch for you. It ...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 20, 2014 9:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Message boards
Replies: 1
Views: 1195

Re: Message boards

Hi natcmau, For your first five posts, you'll only be able to post in certain areas (you can read which ones here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=21&t=24 ) Luckily, in the area you've posted this question in, we have a few topics going that are meant to be conversation starters to ...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 20, 2014 8:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you express intimacy?
Replies: 0
Views: 1561

How do you express intimacy?

So, a little while ago we published this article on intimacy: Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots Taking what that article says about intimacy and all the ways it can be expressed, what does intimacy mean to you? How do you express it to the people you're close to? Do you find that the w...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 19, 2014 6:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: am i being too pushy?
Replies: 3
Views: 1723

Re: am i being too pushy?

Glad to hear it :)
by Sam W
Tue Aug 19, 2014 10:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Overweight and birth control effectiveness?
Replies: 1
Views: 1062

Re: Overweight and birth control effectiveness?

Hi Jirish, There are some physical and wellness factors that may mean the pill is not the best choice for someone, but weight by itself is not one of them. Plus, when your healthcare provider is helping you decide on birth control, they are factoring in things like weight and your health history whe...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 19, 2014 8:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Question
Replies: 6
Views: 2447

Re: Question

Hi Aj,

So, this is one of those scenarios where we're not 100% comfortable saying it had no effect on your pill. However, it takes 2-3 hours after taking a pill for the pill to absorb, so if the vomiting happened after that window, then it would not have had an effect.
by Sam W
Tue Aug 19, 2014 7:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My hymen didnt bleed When it tore. Is this Normal ?
Replies: 9
Views: 2456

Re: My hymen didnt bleed When it tore. Is this Normal ?

Hi Lisa, So, avoiding that pain has less to do with the corona/hymen and more to do with your own arousal level and how relaxed you feel. So, some ways to to increase your comfort and minimize the chances of discomfort are to make sure that you're feeling warmed up enough before penetration (you and...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 18, 2014 7:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: am i being too pushy?
Replies: 3
Views: 1723

Re: am i being too pushy?

Hi Noa, I think the most sound decision to make in this situation is to have a talk (if you haven't already) with your partner about boundaries around sexual stuff. That way, you'll both be talking explicitly about your desires and boundaries, so nobody is having to guess if they're pushing someone ...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 18, 2014 11:05 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Thank you
Replies: 2
Views: 2447

Re: Thank you

Morad, thank you so much for your kind words, and we're so glad to hear that you've found our site helpful and welcoming!
by Sam W
Mon Aug 18, 2014 10:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possible pregnancy risk?
Replies: 7
Views: 2557

Re: Possible pregnancy risk?

Hi Willow, If you've had what looked, felt, and came at the same time as your period, then you can assume that was your period, and that, by extension you're not pregnant. However, if you're still feeling like you need confirmation , taking a pregnancy test is something you can do to get that confir...

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