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by Sam W
Thu Mar 18, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 1005

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hi CatHaru26, Glad to hear you're staying on top of your sexual healthcare! If you recently got over a UTI, I'd keep an eye out to make sure the symptoms you're noticing after sex don't start happening other times, in case it's a sign another UTI is starting up. Since you've noticed that change in y...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 18, 2021 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About Masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 652

Re: About Masturbation

Hi Krys, You're right that, because of where the bladder is located in relation to things like the vaginal canal, things like masturbation or sex can create the feeling of needing to pee. Have you had a chance to look at this article yet? https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/it_feels_like_i_hav...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm gay but I like straight porn
Replies: 3
Views: 549

Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

Hi sugarcrash, It's actually pretty common for people to consume porn featuring things they wouldn't do or want in real life. And that extends to porn that doesn't reflect their own sexual orientation. It can help to think of the sexual media we consume as an extension of fantasy; often we fantasize...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 434

Re: Masturbation

Hi confusedhuman, A lack of lubrication can make things like small nicks or irritation more likely, though the nicks may also come from your fingernails, so checking to be sure those are short (or even wearing latex gloves if the cuts really bother you) can help prevent them. Using urine in that way...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 876

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

Nope, they can't survive on places like sinks or toilet seats for the same reason they can't survive on hands: sperm are fragile, and need very specific conditions to survive. I know in the past we've talked about you bringing up these fears around things like pregnancy and sperm to your therapist. ...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 16, 2021 6:54 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive Masturbation
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Excessive Masturbation

You're welcome!
by Sam W
Tue Mar 16, 2021 6:53 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I feel no sexual stimulation.
Replies: 3
Views: 997

Re: I feel no sexual stimulation.

I mean, you don't have to give up entirely, but taking a break might actually help you out some; if you've been trying and trying and not feeling much, that kind of frustration and pressure is going to make it harder to feel pleasure. When do you decide to masturbate, if your mind is either wanderin...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Boyfriend still talks to ex fwb
Replies: 5
Views: 594

Re: Boyfriend still talks to ex fwb

I'm glad talking here has been helpful! And for sure, seeing a therapist could be a sound call in terms of giving you more space to process these feelings and anything else that's coming up for you as a result of your parents splitting up.
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:33 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive Masturbation
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Excessive Masturbation

Okay, so one option would be to find some other things to hold your attention when that boredom hits and you're not actually in the mood to masturbate. That could be a hobby, or a new piece of media, or even just playing with a pet or messaging a fried. Does something like that sound doable?
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: It hurts
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: It hurts

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:28 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 1215

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

Hi Belled,

Heather is out for the day, but I wanted you to know this was seen and they'll pick back up when they're in again.
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: It hurts
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: It hurts

You're welcome! There are actually lots of reasons why the vagina may not produce "enough" lubrication on any given day, and you can read all about them here: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... ate_enough.
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: It hurts
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: It hurts

Do you have things like massage oil, baby oil, olive oil, coconut oil, or Vaseline in the house that you could use? If not, things like Vaseline are sold as general lotions, so if you can get to a store to buy one it wouldn't alert your parents to the fact you're purchasing lube. Too, it may just be...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 876

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

Hi Anonymous786, The reason pre-ejaculate can't pose a risk in those scenarios is that sperm require very specific conditions to survive and co-create a pregnancy. Those conditions just aren't present in things like being on someone's hand or clothes. You can read more about why that is in these two...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: It hurts
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: It hurts

Generally speaking, the more aroused you are the more likely it is that your body will be producing enough lube to make things comfortable. So it might just be a matter of making sure you're really turned on before inserting your fingers. Too, you may be able to access certain kinds of lube without ...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: It hurts
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: It hurts

Hi jenny01, Inserting fingers into the vaginal canal can have a few different causes. One may be that you had less lubrication (vaginal or from a bottle) than you did the other times you've tried it, or you may have been more tense than usual. Heck, sometimes you can catch yourself with a fingernail...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Orgasm
Replies: 2
Views: 547

Re: Orgasm

Hi jenny01, Orgasms can actually vary in how intense or good they feel. So, just because the orgasm you had last night felt really good doesn't mean that you haven't had an orgasm in the past. If you haven't already done so, check out this article that covers what orgasms generally involve and feel ...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: confused

You're welcome, and I hope you're able to find the support you need at those resources!
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: confused

Okay, since mental health is outside of the realm of services we offer, the first thing I want to do is give you the resources on this page: https://www.opencounseling.com/hotlines-ae. One appears to be a general mental health hotline, the other is specifically for people dealing with suicidal thoug...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: confused

Having trauma as well as living in a place where sexual behavior is punished could both be feeding these anxieties around pregnancy. But it also sounds like there is some underlying mental health stuff going on that could be contributing as well. Are you receiving help, like counseling, for that anx...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: confused

Okay, how about we focus on what you need to get over this scare, as you now have a third confirmation(your period) that pregnancy did not occur? I know we've covered some of the sources of this fear in previous threads, but if you haven't already read it, I think you should take a look at this arti...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: confused
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: confused

Hi Aarushi257, As far as I can tell, a retroverted uterus wouldn't hide a pregnancy from an ultrasound. Too, it also wouldn't cause nine false negative pregnancy tests, so even if something was wrong with the ultrasound, you can be certain you're not pregnant. How are you doing in terms of taking ca...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Boyfriend still talks to ex fwb
Replies: 5
Views: 594

Re: Boyfriend still talks to ex fwb

Those details are really helpful, thank you! And I'm sorry you're in the midst of your parents splitting up; that can be such a rough dynamic to be in the midst of. Since you mention this doesn't feel like an active threat to you two dating, what do you think would make you feel more comfortable wit...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 803

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

Hi thyjsil, I want to focus in on those last few points about what you're wanting from your sex life. Since the idea of really being in the moment and letting go appeals to you, are there things you think the two of you could do to generate that kind of space or experience? Does it feel like there's...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 15, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive Masturbation
Replies: 5
Views: 1324

Re: Excessive Masturbation

Hi QU210054, Masturbation, including frequent masturbation, cannot change the size of the penis. That being said, since you're noticing your masturbation habits are getting in the way of your ability to go about your day, that is something that needs addressing. What would you say the thought proces...

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