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by Heather
Sun Jan 28, 2024 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Blood from penis or not
Replies: 3
Views: 452

Re: Blood from penis or not

Hi there, mika. We just couldn’t possibly know for sure where this blood came from with only this information. Perhaps you scratched yourself? Regardless, unless you are experiencing pain, the amount of blood is profuse, or you have some other reason to believe you have experienced a serious injury,...
by Heather
Mon Jan 22, 2024 1:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abdominal pain/fatigue after anal masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 326

Re: Abdominal pain/fatigue after anal masturbation

It may just be that the muscles that activity can stimulate — like those of your abdomen — were reacting to the specific stimulus of this toy and it was new. I’d be observant to try and get this answered for yourself: is it happening more than once? What else is also in play when it happens besides ...
by Heather
Mon Jan 22, 2024 9:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is sex as a trans person just 'meant' to be boring?
Replies: 7
Views: 1010

Re: Is sex as a trans person just 'meant' to be boring?

I want to pipe in and make a strong suggestion that you pick up a copy of the book "Trans Sex" by Lucie Fielding (who is also herself a trans woman). It's ultimately meant for clinicians, but her style is very readable, and the information in it is fantastic and wide-reaching.
by Heather
Sun Jan 21, 2024 9:53 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Wet vulva
Replies: 10
Views: 2043

Re: Wet vulva

So, there is a fluid literally called "vaginal sweat." It's not the same as sweat, but it is a similar consistency, and it's something that often happens when a person becomes sexually aroused. It also isn't just vaginal, it's also vulval.
by Heather
Wed Jan 17, 2024 1:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Late second period + managing OCD symptoms during pregnancy scare
Replies: 7
Views: 812

Re: Late second period + managing OCD symptoms during pregnancy scare

Sorry for what I misunderstood! You know, in this case, I think if you want to take a second test, and that feels okay to you, you can go ahead and do that. Even people who aren't worried the way you are will often take a second test a week or two after a first one if their period hasn't arrived as ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 17, 2024 11:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Late second period + managing OCD symptoms during pregnancy scare
Replies: 7
Views: 812

Re: Late second period + managing OCD symptoms during pregnancy scare

Hi there, hedera. I'm so sorry that this is tormenting you in this way. So, the medical rule of thumb when it comes to periods and concern is that if someone has missed or skipped periods or otherwise had something of concern happening for three or more cycles then it's time to be concerned. If that...
by Heather
Wed Jan 17, 2024 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexually frustrated
Replies: 26
Views: 3376

Re: sexually frustrated

So, we seem to be at an impasse here. Ultimately, you can try all you can to go get a healthcare evaluation (you didn’t answer my question about if your parents have been reluctant to get you medical care in general) and either get that care or go without it. Or, you can decide you’d rather not, and...
by Heather
Wed Jan 17, 2024 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexually frustrated
Replies: 26
Views: 3376

Re: sexually frustrated

It really does sound to me like you need a healthcare evaluation. How about telling your Dad the parts that are most concerning: the dizziness and burning. (Personally, I don’t think anything around arousal or s a likely medical issue.) If he also tells your mom, that’s fine. Are your parents often ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 17, 2024 7:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnancy
Replies: 1
Views: 972

Re: Pregnancy

Hi there. So, this kind of indirect contact with semen isn’t a way pregnancy can happen. Sperm cells are actually very delicate, so get busted with contact like this, and seminal fluid is also needed to counteract the acidic nature of the vagina. As well, the things she’s feeling aren’t even associa...
by Heather
Sun Jan 07, 2024 11:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My penis looks different
Replies: 2
Views: 3545

Re: My penis looks different

Hi there, Tanc. Chances are good that this is nothing to worry about: more penises have some bend to them when erect than not. It's not because of anything anyone did, it's just because the way erection works (effectively, tubes within the penis filling with blood) and the way that bodies aren't lin...
by Heather
Sun Jan 07, 2024 11:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Too problematic much?
Replies: 4
Views: 1024

Re: Too problematic much?

I hear you, but what I am suggesting is that this isn't a beneficial question to ask or to try and get others to answer. It sounds like you are saying that you struggle with self-worth or self-esteem, and that you feel like relationships or being with someone is some kind of competition where someon...
by Heather
Sun Jan 07, 2024 10:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex life ruined because I don't know my sexuality
Replies: 10
Views: 11210

Re: Sex life ruined because I don't know my sexuality

Hi there, Wendy. I tell my girlfriend to stop for a second but she's already been going at it for 30+ mins so she thinks stopping is going to lose all the work she put in if you know what I mean? Is this something she has actually said to you, or is this something you are assuming she thinks or feel...
by Heather
Sun Jan 07, 2024 10:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Too problematic much?
Replies: 4
Views: 1024

Re: Too problematic much?

Hi there, Wanjee. If this is the same relationship you've talked about before, I think we should figure there are a lot more layers to this than this post. However, I would personally suggest never having conversations about who is or has been "the best" person. In most people's lives, the...
by Heather
Sun Dec 31, 2023 11:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: diy sex toys
Replies: 1
Views: 1433

Re: diy sex toys

I would not use a ziploc bag as a barrier. They both don’t offer the kind of real barrier from pathogens condoms do, and they also aren’t a soft enough material to not cause abrasions.

You can get condoms through places like Amazon just like toys, though!
by Heather
Thu Dec 28, 2023 7:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t masturbate, yet always horny
Replies: 2
Views: 3009

Re: Can’t masturbate, yet always horny

I also want to add that most places that ship toys do so in ways that are incredibly discreet. Unless your family members open your mail or packages -- a thing you can ask them not to do anymore, if so -- no one will know what you have ordered.
by Heather
Wed Dec 27, 2023 5:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Withdrawal Bleeding or Period?
Replies: 4
Views: 1514

Re: Withdrawal Bleeding or Period?

The differences here are most likely because you took the BC pills, but ultimately we can’t say for sure.

What we can help you with, though, is no longer having unprotected sex when you clearly don’t want a pregnancy. Would you like help negotiating condom use with your partner?
by Heather
Wed Dec 27, 2023 5:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Medication and contraception?
Replies: 1
Views: 2034

Re: Medication and contraception?

Hey there. I’m afraid I don’t know for sure why it lists that one specifically, save that that may well be the only one that showed any issues in studies. Since it doesn’t list Depo, and since you were prescribed this while you are also prescribed Depo, I would not assume there are any issues. It al...
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 2:17 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: New to the sexual world and only one finger fits into my vagina, afraid this will prevent PIV sex
Replies: 6
Views: 5656

Re: New to the sexual world and only one finger fits into my vagina, afraid this will prevent PIV sex

(fantasybaby08: I moved this thread to an area where you can talk to staff and users and deleted the copy of it you made to start a new one with the same questions just because you also wanted user interaction. Now you get both your ongoing conversation and anyone else can chime in if they want.)
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 2:14 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New to masturbation and sexual activity (struggling a little)
Replies: 0
Views: 10325

Re: New to masturbation and sexual activity (struggling a little)

Hey there: the better way to make that switch is just to move your previous/duplicate thread. I'll do that for you right now!
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unusual period after EC
Replies: 2
Views: 1458

Re: Unusual period after EC

I also want to add that having a period due 7 days after apparent ovulation tells you that your tracker isn't giving you accurate information, because that would be much too soon for a period to come after ovulating. None of those trackers can give very accurate ovulation information, just so you kn...
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 6:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom fell off when he pulled out and I had cum on inner leg. Help!
Replies: 6
Views: 1118

Re: Condom fell off when he pulled out and I had cum on inner leg. Help!

Runmelon, given that you're very clear you don't want to become pregnant, would you also like to talk about other methods you can back up condom use with in the future, ongoing methods rather than EC? I'm happy to walk you through some options, if you like.
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 6:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don’t think I can reach orgasm?
Replies: 13
Views: 8843

Re: I don’t think I can reach orgasm?

Hey there, Arghdaq. So, I'm thinking that it might be that the bigger issue at hand here isn't about what you are or are not doing physically, but what's going on in your head. We can be doing things that have felt amazing in the past, and using sex toys that we love, but if something is afoot psych...
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 5:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs
Replies: 9
Views: 1572

Re: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs

You're welcome. I hope that you can feel better about this soon. <3
by Heather
Tue Dec 26, 2023 5:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My mom wants to force me to get a virginity test as well as a pregnancy test at the gynecologist
Replies: 1
Views: 945

Re: My mom wants to force me to get a virginity test as well as a pregnancy test at the gynecologist

Hi there, random. I'm having a little bit of trouble ascertaining exactly what the legal rights of a minor in the Philippines are when it comes to this kind of medical treatment, but let me start with what I know for sure first. There is no such thing as "virginity testing," and that's bec...
by Heather
Mon Dec 25, 2023 1:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs
Replies: 9
Views: 1572

Re: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs

I didn’t tell you this is the only way you will ever masturbate. I said quite the opposite, actually. I think you are stressing about a thing you just don’t need to, truly. You can experiment and explore new things over time: there is rarely only one way anything feels good to someone. But if you’re...

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