I'm not sure what you mean by "breast foreplay." "Foreplay" is a really vague term that straight people often use to describe anything and everything they can do before intercourse. It doesn't really tell me anything about the kind of breast stimulation you're asking about. Did w...

Are you asking about that first article you talked about, Alex? If so, that was a piece from 2008: it's a very old one, and it's only a piece from one given writer. She's not here anymore for me to bring her whatever questions and concerns you have, so I can't speak for her motivations about it or a...

Hey there. I think that something that makes answering the kinds of questions you're asking impossible is that "women" -- and it sounds like you expressly mean cisgender women -- is a group of BILLIONS of people. Because of that, trying to sort out what works and doesn't, what's good and i...

Always happy to help. I think it makes the most sense to center yourself in this, thinking about how other people might react very secondarily. One, because whatever words you decide to use for yourself in any of this, there is literally no situation in which you are going to be required to share th...

Hi there, Anne. Who are the people talking to you about this? Whoever they are, something you can do for yourself when you're in a scare like this is both limiting who you talk to about it, and asking those you DO talk to to keep their talk about it with you supportive, or else not talk to you at al...

Morning, Rachel. My experience is that this is the case for a lot of people, but for sure, some kinds of neurodivergence can make it happen more often, be harder to let go of when it does happen, or both. Personally, I wouldn't get hung up on the validity of any of your kinds of upset. We feel what ...

Good morning. :) You know, the person who will always be the most -- and sometimes the only! -- effected by what words we use for any of the parts of ourselves is us. And often how we figure out who we are, what our identity is, be it with sex or with things like religion, community, what have you, ...

It doesn't sound like anything is likely actually wrong here to me, just like common variations we can see of the vulva and vaginal opening. But periods shouldn't cause vaginal or vulval pain, if that's what you mean by "thing," and it's also usually okay to see a sexual healthcare provide...

Hi there, chailover. As you can probably figure out what "the college experience" even is varies by a whole lot, and that includes people's experiences of their sexual lives in college. For some people that's no partners at all, for others it is a handful of different partners, be they cas...

Did you touch it? Might it have been mucus/discharge rather than tissue (skin)?

Hi there, Alex. It sounds to me like, in line with what Latha has suggested, that you approach any sex with your partner here form the standpoint of what feels okay as far as trauma goes, rather than by trying to reach orgasm. Trying to reach orgasm in this situation sounds to me a little bit like s...

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, bleeding isn't "supposed" to happen with sex, period, and it usually doesn't, including with first time intercourse. When it does, it's usually due to a minor injury by way of abrasion, due to not using lubricant or not using enough, a partner or ev...

You know, it sounds to me like this guy already has a pretty full roster, and from what I can tell from your posts so far, you're not looking for what sounds most likely to be a one-time thing with someone you only are attracted to physically.

Do I have that right?

I just think that because you are so clear that you also do not really want to be masturbating, that continuing to do that while also feeling so much discomfort with having these desires in the first place is not a great choice for your mental health or towards hopefully, in time, resolving all of t...

No big!

So, "libido" is just a word for sexual desire, just so we're all on the same page. I asked how long this lasts to find out how long you'd have to potentially feel uncomfortable for if you didn't masturbate to try and quell it. If that was minutes or hours, that would obviously be very diff...

No judgment about just being physically attracted to someone! I was just trying to get a sense of the bigger picture. That said, if you're not just looking for a sexual interaction or relationship, my advice would be to try and get a better sense of him as a person first before, say, asking him out,...

Hey there, Lexie. Welcome to the boards. :) Can you tell me a little more about what you know about him besides what he looks like and what interactions with other girls he may or may not have had? What draws you to him, besides finding his appearance appealing? Can you also tell me what you mean wh...

For how long does that last, those feelings? A few minutes? Hours? Days? Longer?

You know, Laaviv, some of what you're saying here sounds a lot like some talk I have heard from my friends and colleagues over the years who are fiction writers. I have absolutely heard people who feel very attached to some of their characters (this is sometimes called a parasocial relationship, if ...

Hello, again! Hopefully you've been doing well in your absence from the boards. :) And thanks for looking for answers on the site first! Appreciate you! Ultimately, we're just not going to be able to tell you what this was. If it came from your urethra, though, it was either urine, ejaculate or some...

Hi there, lycheefan. So, there's no static, or set, way that the vaginal opening, vaginal canal, or the muscles around it are. They chance in a bunch of ways, pretty much all the time, depending on a whole host of factors, things like where a person is at in their fertility/menstrual cycle (or place...

Can I just pop into the thread here and ask what happens if you don’t masturbate? Typically, feeling of sexual desire will come and go even if we don’t do anything with them, and it certainly is not unhealthy NOT to masturbate. That’s something a lot of people like to do, but it’s never something an...

100% agree with Nadine here. I want to add that there is also no such thing as a “perfect 28 day cycle.” That whole idea actually comes from a very poorly (and very racist, too!) and shockingly amateur science project of sorts in the 1940s. You can look up “Norma” and the American Museum of Natural ...

Well, literally speaking they are ongoing interactions we have with other people. Seriously, that's it. I have a relationship with my bus diver just like I I do with a lover, they are just very different kinds of relationships. Honestly, I think often the older we get, and the more complex we all be...