hey brungerbulp, It's always interesting to hear people's sex ed experience! It sounds like your sex ed session only had time to cover the very briefest headline, but not the particulars. My understanding is that IUDs do inhibit sperm - hormonal IUDs primarily by thickening the cervical mucus, like ...

Hey SillyMcGoof, I just read through and I wanted to ask what your sister's behavior, and how we/you might define it means to you? People can be hurtful to eachother in many different ways, and identifying abusive cycles within those behaviours can help us get free of the hold an abusive person can ...

Hey dollparties, I just want to add that if you have fears around things being triggering or graphic, that it could help you to bring this up early in the intake call, this itself could be a topic of conversation and any good professional would use it as on opportunity to understand how you're feeli...

Hi APupleScarf! It's nice to hear you've been happy in your relationship so far, and I'm sorry these recent things have made it more difficult. It makes total sense to have felt the way you did when you were pinned down by your girlfriend, and afterwards. It takes a while sometimes to realise where ...

Hey Melanie! How long ago was the day when you had sex? I think if the manufacturers consider an 8 day gap to be risky, and while this doesn't exactly make it 8 days, it is close, I would err on the side of caution and treat this as a small pregnancy risk, especially if it's worrying you. How long a...

Hey Sam321! I can confirm raily's reply is spot-on; there is no chance of pregnancy here. Sperm in any quantity cannot survive what you are describing. Another thing to think about is that anxiety like this about sex-related risks can sometimes come from other fears or stressors around sex or relati...

I'm going to say riding my bike! Extra points if I have the time to go find a place to camp and jump in some (clean, safe) water.

Hey queerlink, This sounds tough! I wonder if it'd help to recall that the queer community' is faaaar from a singular thing. Some queer spaces/people can be super accepting of a wide range of identities and open to whatever... whereas some can frankly be down right regressive. Fundamentally, you don...

Just to add this was one of the primary reasons I switched from Zoloft to a different SSRI which, at least in my case, solved the issue.

I've been cautiously aware of these shifts in online culture and fandoms and honestly much of it is pretty depressing. While I'm sure some of these folks/spaces are cautious of making young people uncomfortable, much of the rhetoric that I come accross seems like it's good old cliquey behaviour: bro...

lilikoi wrote: ↑Mon Jan 16, 2023 10:30 am Happy to help! Do you need any information from me to get started?

Hey there! Thank you so much for offering to help. I'm just in the early stages (gathering names and email addresses)

Are you ok with me using the email address you registered with?

Hi folks,

I'm looking for anyone interested in testing upcoming updates to Scarleteen.

This will mostly involve clicking through the website and telling me what you think of our plans on how to change it!

Reply below and I will get back to you.

Many thanks!

- Jacob, Scarleteen Development Lead

About login: If I am logged out and click "reply" on someone's post, it takes me to a login page with small boxes that works. But If I try to use the normal login page (https://www.scarleteen.com/user/login) I enter the login and it just reloads without logging in, even in different brows...

Hey crowcaw! Technical stuff: Just a note to say I tried logging myself out and clicking the login link in the top-right corner of the page (which takes you here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/ucp.php?mode=login) but didn't have any issues logging back in. Can I ask if there were any error messages ...

Hi fionnaapplelover! I love Fionna Apple too, and welcome to Scarleteen! I wish we could carry this conversation on right away, as this is the kind of stuff we love to discuss and help with, but just to warn you that we are doing some technical work on the website today so we may not be open for rep...

Hi sky, How is everything? I think the last time you were around you were leaning into therapy to talk more about relationships and such? On your question here: At first, it can be scary if our partner has more sex or dating experiences than us, but soon enough it usually becomes clear that it doesn...

Hey there! The idea that comes to mind is connected to journalling and exploring "what if" scenarios by writing them down. The aim being to make a range of things feel imaginable... instead of the possiblities feeling narrow. This may or may not appeal to you, but here's what I'm thinking:...

Hi Regina, He might be hurt but it sounds like it would be honest of you to say that you don't want to get married. It is much easier to accept things when they are stated with care and honesty and reduces the hurt in the long term. I would also be careful not to blame his biology for your decision....

I did not know that about valentines day! Thanks, pretty interesting! ... I am pretty critical of traditions like that anyway. What I meant when I said dating can be better when you *don't* know is related to that. When people go in with a super precise image of who they want to date, exactly how th...

I see! Not feeling good enough for love is a horrible horrible feeling. I have no doubt you are plenty good enough for the right people who you could be dating! I also don't think there is anything to be ashamed of in having adjusted to taboos or fears that were around you at a certain time... We of...

It does, you can continue to take it at 10am.

No problem!

Hi Julia, I'm happy to say you can continue to take it at your most convenient time and expect it to be as effective as ever. The instructions on the packet usually say that if you take it within 12 hours of your usual time it has no impact on the effectiveness. Taking it at the same time everyday h...

Hi Dan! It sometimes just happens when people are experiencing pleasure or stimulation that they involuntarily pee themselves to some extent... what you're describing sounds a bit more like ejaculation fluid (clear, coming out in 'sprays') which while it might contain some urine, isn't thought to be...

Hiya! It sounds to me like through the past few years you've done really well at staying true to what you wanted (and didn't want) and what you were feeling at the time. I'm not hearing that you're somebody who has wanted to date or have a partner while liking the thought of it occasionally but are ...

Glad you feel like some of it is starting to become clearer, it makes lots of sense to me. I just want to be in a situation where I allow myself to be happy with a romantic partner rather than anxiously waiting for things to go wrong. That is a really difficult balance to strike. Especially when try...