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by Jacob
Thu Apr 02, 2020 5:23 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What should I do about the Trump-supporters in my life?
Replies: 7
Views: 4979

Re: What should I do about the Trump-supporters in my life?

So good to hear from you!

I really really don't get it either, but it's good that at least your relationship with this person doesn't feel like an issue right now!
by Jacob
Thu Apr 02, 2020 5:20 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 36250

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Oh I feel you on this too. My mum's a trained nurse who has been doing non-clinical office work in hospitals, and has been working from home, but as things get worse they're going to need her to put on her blues and go into the front line. I often wished I could just flick a switch to stop having a ...
by Jacob
Thu Apr 02, 2020 5:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pregnancy scare?
Replies: 1
Views: 1416

Re: Pregnancy scare?

Hi E, It sounds like maybe the coronavirus panic could be ramping up the pregnancy scare feelings! Is that something you're feeling in a big way recently? It has been a really emotionally taxing time, which can be reflected in our sleep schedule, body clock and yup even menstrual cycles. I absolutel...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 01, 2020 6:41 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 36250

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

I have anecdotally heard from friends and younger folks in my life that the creeps in their inboxes seem to have dialed it up a knotch. Which is just what we all needed! Well done for cutting such people loose. I am also so happy you might be a step closer to getting the care you need! Even with all...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 01, 2020 9:19 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don't feel good even when I try to masturbate.I don't think I'm asexual though
Replies: 16
Views: 4310

Re: I don't feel good even when I try to masturbate.I don't think I'm asexual though

Hi Astranger, It sounds like this is a very rewarding thing to be exploring, and I think it's really good that you're open to different possibilities. I'm especially glad that article Sam shared was helpful: similar advice has been really helpful to me too! I actually have some similar experiences o...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 01, 2020 8:19 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Extreme Itching?
Replies: 4
Views: 1437

Re: Extreme Itching?

Hi! Thanks for coming by and asking, I'm sorry you're having such a difficult (and itchy) time. I'm especially sorry to hear fears of your mother being un-supportive... has she been blamey around your psoriasis or health before? Places like the vulva, groin, (or armpits etc) are actually a common pl...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 01, 2020 7:37 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Periods on birth control
Replies: 2
Views: 1639

Re: Periods on birth control

Hi Daisy, Nearly all blood will turn brown when it's given a chance*, so it's not an issue! It also isn't unusual that you bleed smaller amounts the longer your body gets used to the contraceptive pill, and that means it's not going to 'flow' like a heavy period would and so has more time to turn br...
by Jacob
Wed Apr 01, 2020 5:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling with dating apps
Replies: 37
Views: 5470

Re: Struggling with dating apps

It's just, before these feelings were tolerable, because at least I was going to clubs. At least there were opportunities for me to get out of the house and meet people. But now I'm constantly hit with no one responding to any of my messages in the one hope that I have left. Hi wolfcub, 0PT1M15T1C ...
by Jacob
Sun Feb 16, 2020 10:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
Replies: 21
Views: 3167

Re: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)

Hi BuddyBoi21, I hope the meeting goes as well as is possible in such circumstances. I don't think it's good or bad to go, it's just a choice that you're free to make. Choices around exes can often be hard because there is so often not a 'right thing' to do, if only! It sounds like you are going thr...
by Jacob
Sun Feb 16, 2020 5:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What a sweet resource!
Replies: 2
Views: 1485

Re: What a sweet resource!

Hi Catatonk, Thanks for your kind words. Our main piece on fertility awareness is here and would be the main source of information for any of our users interested in fertility awareness methods. We are able to go into more depth there around how effective FAM can be when sympto-thermal methods are u...
by Jacob
Sun Feb 16, 2020 3:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sugar Momma
Replies: 7
Views: 2641

Re: Sugar Momma

Hi Sistine! I'm so sorry to hear you are going through so many difficult feelings, especially the fear of losing your parents and potentially your home! I do want to address you using the term 'Sugar Momma' which is usually associated with some sort of financial arangement and/or sex work, rather th...
by Jacob
Thu Jan 23, 2020 4:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Puberty Worries
Replies: 21
Views: 4046

Re: Puberty Worries

That's the thing about 'supposed to be'... you'd be surprised at how different everyone's experiences are, changes happen at different times for different people.
by Jacob
Thu Jan 23, 2020 4:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: When masturbating, it feels good for a while but then it just doesn’t
Replies: 8
Views: 2329

Re: When masturbating, it feels good for a while but then it just doesn’t

I wanna try touching myself but I’m a bit worried about the germs down there. Especially if someone interrupts me and I gotta act natural. My parents barge into my room a lot. Hi Nyla, Do you think you could ask your parents to knock first? You don't have to say "because I wanna masturbate&quo...
by Jacob
Thu Jan 23, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bleeding... again
Replies: 3
Views: 1327

Re: Bleeding... again

Hi Jellyfish! So irregular bleeding, exactly how you're describing is probably the top side effect of IUDs. So it's exactly what many doctors would expect to happen. The effectiveness of the hormones in suppressing that bleeding is actually likely to get better over time, not 'wear out'. It can take...
by Jacob
Thu Jan 23, 2020 2:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Puberty Worries
Replies: 21
Views: 4046

Re: Puberty Worries

Hi Cliffe! Penis size tends to change during puberty, so you're right to expect this is probably something that will change too. You'll likely see the different signs of puberty happen over the next few years, not all at once. Separate to this, penis size is also not something to super-worry about a...
by Jacob
Thu Jan 23, 2020 10:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: GoneWildAudio?
Replies: 1
Views: 891

Re: GoneWildAudio?

Hi Aftermath,
This site isn't really a place to share specific porn recommendations, I hope you understand.
by Jacob
Tue Jan 21, 2020 1:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...
Replies: 8
Views: 1895

Re: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...

Hi KittyPink it's great you've started thinking of different options that could work and how a productive conversation could work. Not always, but often as part of an open conversation, I think offering things or asking for things can come a little later into the conversation if it feels appropriate...
by Jacob
Tue Jan 21, 2020 12:57 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scared that I’ve been living a lie
Replies: 1
Views: 831

Re: Scared that I’ve been living a lie

Hi Common! Given all the efforts various people (under threat of countless dangers) have put into trying to redirect their sexual orientation, I'd say it's pretty much impossible to turn oneself gay! It's best, I think, to imagine that your orientatoin isn't just one thing... that it isn't just one ...
by Jacob
Tue Jan 21, 2020 12:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Fictional Crushes Affecting Relationship
Replies: 7
Views: 2079

Re: Fictional Crushes Affecting Relationship

Echoing some of the folks abvove, especially Kaizen with this zinger: So I wonder, do you feel at all like you have to stay with your boyfriend? I don't know how happy or not you are spending time with your boyfriend specifically, but I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with preferring you...
by Jacob
Mon Jan 13, 2020 3:04 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 6519

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

Hi Thea! I'm creative and kind, and can be very empathetic but I'm not sure what to say to myself with these things. You just did! I wanted to drop by and say how great it is you're able to talk about your qualities. I think something that has helped me is when I remind myself of those qualities, an...
by Jacob
Wed Oct 30, 2019 11:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ex boyfriend threat
Replies: 23
Views: 3572

Re: Ex boyfriend threat

At this point I don't think it's your responsibility to do anything more. It wasn't wrong to tell them. They could have chosen to support you and listen to you (they still might), but it's on them that they let you down. If you can say "I did the right thing", " He hurt me " I th...
by Jacob
Wed Oct 30, 2019 10:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ex boyfriend threat
Replies: 23
Views: 3572

Re: Ex boyfriend threat

I'm sorry your parents are being so unsupportive! There's nothing wrong with caring for yourself. It's not selfish to simply attempt to recover from the way your 'self' has been hurt by a terrible man. Have you had any chance to sit down and speak with your parents and talk about their concerns? I u...
by Jacob
Wed Oct 30, 2019 9:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: meeting my online friend
Replies: 9
Views: 2208

Re: meeting my online friend

Hi tomatopotato, I just want to congratulate you for listening to your gut and being true to what you want! If your are feeling unsure about calling vs texting, in your situation I would err towards calling. Tone of voice can sometimes allow you to communicate some positive emotions towards each-oth...
by Jacob
Mon Oct 14, 2019 2:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Feeling while masturbating??
Replies: 2
Views: 1110

Re: No Feeling while masturbating??

Aw lovinglylovinme that sounds really frustrating. If you have fantasies which work for you, I'd focus on enjoy them for what they are. Relaxation is also going to be a major factor. So if you can think of anything that would make your environment more comfortable and feel more relaxing, that will h...
by Jacob
Mon Oct 14, 2019 1:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: "New" User
Replies: 3
Views: 1594

Re: "New" User

Always good to hear form an oldie! What was your username?

Incidentally I'm the same age but I never left. It's great to hear you're looking to get into something related!

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