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by Mo
Mon Jan 11, 2021 5:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1520

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I think it would be okay to have that conversation over video, if it feels comfortable to you to have it that way. I can understand why it might feel hard to bring it up when something big and tragic happens, but it sounds like this is a source of ongoing stress for you, so I do think talking with h...
by Mo
Tue Jan 05, 2021 5:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Question About Conctrecption
Replies: 9
Views: 1365

Re: Question About Conctrecption

That's what we're here for, to help you learn something new! :)
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 5:43 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (Again)
Replies: 7
Views: 1753

Re: Masturbation (Again)

It's good to hear that you've connected with someone new! I think Alexa's idea of finding communities related to interests or other things you might have in common with someone would be a good plan for next time you want to try branching out and making new connections with folks.
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 5:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How long does sperm last?
Replies: 9
Views: 1389

Re: How long does sperm last?

I think talking about this specific anxiety with your therapist when you see them next is a great plan. :) I definitely get how having a longer than normal break between appointments can make stressful situations harder to deal with, but hopefully they'll have some helpful thoughts and strategies fo...
by Mo
Mon Jan 04, 2021 4:05 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2657

Re: I think I'm ready

That sounds great! I'm glad you had a good time and things felt pretty comfortable after your initial nervousness. :)
by Mo
Fri Jan 01, 2021 5:28 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: i think i'm just not made for hookups
Replies: 3
Views: 740

Re: i think i'm just not made for hookups

I think taking some space from this guy and seeing how you feel after a little time has gone by makes a lot of sense. :) I'm glad talking about this has been helpful! I feel that way a lot, too; just processing my thoughts enough to put them into words can be a useful part of understanding how I fee...
by Mo
Fri Jan 01, 2021 5:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I be worried?
Replies: 6
Views: 947

Re: Should I be worried?

Hi there Digdawg, As long as you're still on a combination pill like you were when asking about late pills before, it is still the case that you have twelve hours until a pill can be considered late. It doesn't sound like you took your pill more than twelve hours late though, so you're all good on t...
by Mo
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to masturbate!
Replies: 7
Views: 1248

Re: Struggling to masturbate!

You're very welcome! Please let us know if you need to talk about this further or have any other questions. :)
by Mo
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: questioning sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 1627

Re: questioning sexuality

Hi there, apismellifera, and welcome! Thanks for the kind words about Scarleteen. :) We're always happy to hear when we've been helpful. The questions you're asking here are important ones, but also not ones that are easy to give a concrete answer to, as you may imagine. If it helps, though, it's no...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex in a serious relationship
Replies: 13
Views: 1631

Re: Sex in a serious relationship

I do think that being exposed to a lot of different people and belief systems can go a long way towards countering some of those messages, so it sounds like your college experience has been and will probably continue to be helpful in that way. It makes me think about people I know who were raised wi...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 4:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 4125

Re: Sexual outlets

Thanks for the update! Even if you didn't get the answer you wanted about therapy from your partner, it's great that you were able to have some good, productive conversations about that and other aspects of the relationship. It's great to hear that you're having luck with your new medication, too; I...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to masturbate!
Replies: 7
Views: 1248

Re: Struggling to masturbate!

It's definitely tough when masturbation winds up feeling frustrating, but it's definitely going to be a LOT harder for it to feel enjoyable if you're in that frustration zone, so I do think taking a break if you're getting stressed is going to be the way to go. It might mean you have some abbreviate...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 885

Re: Insurance!!

It sounds like your next steps would be to either contact her again to see if she has any openings (and, if you think it would be useful, to talk about the issue with the police to see if a conversation about what happened will help you trust her more again), or to check in with your future insuranc...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 885

Re: Insurance!!

I'm glad to hear that you've been able to move out and that you can find a therapist soon, those are both great pieces of news.
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2657

Re: I think I'm ready

I haven't read Jen Gunter's book, but I have seen several of her blog posts about vaginal health and mythbusting (I know she has taken on some of the more harmful things that Goop has tried to sell for vaginal use/treatment) and they all seemed pretty good! I hope you find that helpful, and if you h...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 488

Re: About hook up

Many regular family doctors will offer that testing, although there are likely other clinics that can offer testing as well. If you search for something like "STI testing clinic" or "sexual health clinic" in your area, that may turn up some options near you.
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?
Replies: 7
Views: 1363

Re: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?

Us not answering a particular question isn't an issue of us being mad or unsupportive. As the registration agreement says, and as Heather mentioned in another thread, we may not answer every question immediately or at all; not getting an answer to a question right away isn't a sign that we're angry,...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Diy Men's Masturbators
Replies: 5
Views: 790

Re: Diy Men's Masturbators

As long as it is unmedicated and unscented, a lotion should be safe to use.
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:05 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
Replies: 11
Views: 2047

Re: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused

It's good to hear that things are going better, but I'm a bit worried that he's still being distant and cold with you a lot of the time. You seem very aware of the things he's going through and the fact that he needs support, which is wonderful, but you need and deserve support and affection as well...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 4:51 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: What's The Point
Replies: 6
Views: 1670

Re: What's The Point

Hi idk anymore, I'm concerned that you're engaging in self-harm and that you don't feel like you're receiving any love or support right now; that's what I'd like to focus on for the moment. If there is anyone in your life who you feel is supportive of you, do you feel like you could reach out to the...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 3:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2657

Re: I think I'm ready

As you say, you're just starting out with this; many people find that as time goes on they get a better sense of what does and doesn't work during masturbation (and what might feel amazing vs. just very good). You have plenty of time to keep exploring and figure out what feels best. :)
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2657

Re: I think I'm ready

Any sort of white noise you could introduce into the environment, plus letting your mom know you'd like privacy while using the living room, would be good! You could feel more confident that you wouldn't be interrupted and your parents wouldn't have the chance of accidentally interrupting you, which...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal Orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 2330

Re: Anal Orgasm

I think the best thing you can do is give yourself the time and space to explore any part of your body that you want to! What people enjoy during sex or masturbation varies so much that we can't point to any specific things we know will work for you specifically, but doing some exploration of your b...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:07 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Diy Men's Masturbators
Replies: 5
Views: 790

Re: Diy Men's Masturbators

Were you using a lubricant as well? Using lube (or more, if you only used a little) should cut down on the grippy feeling.
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 5:09 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 748

Re: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation

Yes, there are issues both of child pornography (which people can get in trouble for even if what they're sharing are images of themselves they've taken/shared willingly) and that any sort of adult-focused website will want to work very hard to make sure they aren't letting anyone underage join or c...

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