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by MusicNerd
Mon Feb 22, 2016 6:18 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: My friend is featured in Buzzfeed LGBT!
Replies: 2
Views: 2034

Re: My friend is featured in Buzzfeed LGBT!

aww, thanks Heather, you're so sweet! haha :) but yeah, i'll def let my friend know. yeah, I can only imagine that (in ways that police forces across the country are systemically problematic) a police presence Chicago would also instill fear in folks (especially trans women, and trans women of color).
by MusicNerd
Sun Feb 21, 2016 5:26 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: My friend is featured in Buzzfeed LGBT!
Replies: 2
Views: 2034

My friend is featured in Buzzfeed LGBT!

She's a trans woman sex worker activist, and she was featured in Buzzfeed LGBT today! I'm super proud of her and felt the need to share her story here :) This Trans Sex Worker Wants To Use Her Ivy League Education To Build An Empire
by MusicNerd
Thu Feb 18, 2016 8:49 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Gendered Speech Differences
Replies: 4
Views: 2512

Gendered Speech Differences

so, since y'all always seem to have really cool and interesting things to say about gender-related things, I wanted to ask: what are folks' experiences with gender and conversation/discussion dynamics in different spaces (ex. jobs, classrooms, etc.)? how has gender affected the way your speech was r...
by MusicNerd
Thu Feb 11, 2016 12:42 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day
Replies: 4
Views: 2653

Re: Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day

hey Redskies! nope, no worries! it's always nice hearing from you :) yeah, that's definitely another valid option! it probably wouldn't register much on my radar either if it wasn't something that people all over my university's campus made a big stink of-- but unfortunately they do. lol hence why I...
by MusicNerd
Wed Feb 10, 2016 10:08 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day
Replies: 4
Views: 2653

Re: Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day

hi al, thanks so much! haha :) i also just remembered that i'm going with a friend to a tattoo convention this weekend as well, so that'll also be fun. i've basically got a jam-packed weekend ahead of me! still need to figure out what to do on V-Day, but i might take you up on your friend's idea and...
by MusicNerd
Sat Feb 06, 2016 8:45 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day
Replies: 4
Views: 2653

Single (and okay with it!) on Valentine's Day

so, roughly a week from now is the infamous holiday about love and romance and whatnot-- but what to do when you're single on this day and everyone around you seems to be making a big fuss about it?? this year, I don't feel as bad about being single around this time even though Valentine's Day's rig...
by MusicNerd
Sat Feb 06, 2016 6:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

UPDATE: so, today marks exactly one month since I went no-contact with my parents, and.... it feels really great. I only have "talked" with them once or twice and that was to reply to a text regarding a logistical issue related to my graduation. otherwise, there's been zero communication ...
by MusicNerd
Wed Jan 06, 2016 5:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

UPDATE: I finally was able to separate my bank account from my parents today since I got my financial aid refund earlier than expected, and I sent them a fairly brief no-contact-for-a-while email letter. it was really nerve-wracking and anxiety-inducing for me to send it, but i know future-me will t...
by MusicNerd
Mon Jan 04, 2016 4:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

hey Heather! thanks :) basically, I'd like to figure out: 1. ways that I can keep from blaming myself for the inevitable backlash that will occur after sending this message and 2. how to make sure this won't interfere with my financial aid refund that will be deposited into my account in mid-January...
by MusicNerd
Mon Jan 04, 2016 4:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

UPDATE: hope y'all had a happy new year!! :) so, I recently visited a friend in another state for a couple days, and it was really fun! but now, i've got some things coming up with my parents again. my dad is starting to get more insistent on having lunch with me and talking on the phone and all tha...
by MusicNerd
Thu Dec 31, 2015 2:22 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
Replies: 5
Views: 2866

Re: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"

ah! i saw and "liked" it-- yay, glad you enjoyed it! :D
by MusicNerd
Wed Dec 30, 2015 8:24 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: "No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"
Replies: 5
Views: 2866

"No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why"

Found this article from Everyday Feminism and it seemed to have a lot of good stuff in it, so I figured I'd share it here! :) No, They’re Not ‘Out of Your League’ – Here’s Why (And 3 Things to Consider Instead)
by MusicNerd
Mon Dec 28, 2015 3:47 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

thanks, Heather and Mo! yeah, i'll definitely continue to try and enjoy my alone-time/break :)
by MusicNerd
Sun Dec 27, 2015 9:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

also, i just wanna add in addition to what i posted right above: i've been really enjoying being by myself. like, actually though. i mean, i've always needed to recharge by being by myself after hanging out with other people or going to different social events and whatnot. #IntrovertProblems but i c...
by MusicNerd
Sun Dec 27, 2015 6:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

hey Redskies! I'm actually doing pretty okay, thanks for asking. continuing to be kind to myself and comfort myself while making some progress on my assignments (that are due in less than a week lol whoops, 'cause that's totally not stressful). It can definitely be tough to create emotional distance...
by MusicNerd
Fri Dec 25, 2015 6:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

wow, you wrote a lot of great stuff here! I'll just go section-by-section then. haha :) That's a seriously kickass epiphany, and I'm so glad you had it. I also find it helpful to remind myself in family relationships where love is not being extended or shared with me that a) the primary person that ...
by MusicNerd
Fri Dec 25, 2015 5:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

yeah, for sure. like I know they know on some level that I'm not actually okay, but they don't wanna see it or deal with it. also, usually it's in these situations that my little kid self starts to feel unlovable, but then I had a mini-epiphany tonight that: the way my parents treat me doesn't mean ...
by MusicNerd
Fri Dec 25, 2015 5:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

alright, so I've only got 2 more hours to spend with my parents, and then I'm gonna hang out at a friend's place for the rest of the night, so that'll be fun! it's so weird... I feel like a doll, and to protect myself I've basically put myself on autopilot -- nodding at the right times, giving half-...
by MusicNerd
Fri Dec 25, 2015 12:03 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

hey Heather! thanks, I really appreciate that :) I might take you up on that later today because my dad has already driven me kinda up a wall (and it's only 2 pm and I haven't even gone home yet) and I just am trying to be as kind to myself as possible during this time.
by MusicNerd
Thu Dec 24, 2015 5:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

[didnt mean to make another post after my last one above-- things are weird to navigate on my phone sorry lol]
by MusicNerd
Wed Dec 23, 2015 7:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

Hey Redskies! Thanks for getting back to me and sending all those helpful links. 1. I finally got an air mattress for dirt cheap! yay!! it really made me so happy today :D 2. I agree with you in that I'm basically at my coping limit and currently trying to do things for self-preservation at this poi...
by MusicNerd
Tue Dec 22, 2015 8:52 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

sorry for the triple-post but I timed out for editing my last post: I'm just gonna sleep on the decision to see them or not a bit more and see how it goes from there. I'm still gonna need to think up my letter for whenever I send it though, since it has to be done at some point. like, before thanksg...
by MusicNerd
Tue Dec 22, 2015 7:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

oh boy, a lot happened today since my post above from earlier in the day, and i have to pick up my debit card tomorrow and i couldn't even work on my assignments today because of something that came up.... i can't even go into everything without overloading y'all with even more information, and i do...
by MusicNerd
Tue Dec 22, 2015 12:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

I'm actually blocking off time to do some homework tonight-- at the cafe where my dad is planning on dropping off the card to me. so, that'll be good to just sit there and focus with some coffee in-hand (and i think the internet might be more reliable there than the current cafe i'm in, so that's go...
by MusicNerd
Tue Dec 22, 2015 10:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Going Home for Winter Break
Replies: 71
Views: 10888

Re: Going Home for Winter Break

just remembered another thing to add onto the post above: if i piss my parents off enough, they might stop paying for my schooling. that would really mess with my financial aid-- even if it meant receiving more money from them, that would take time and then the money i would use for rent and food fr...

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