I'm glad that yesterday was a good day for you! You know, if you learnt that flings don't suit you because you like to know someone better then that's perfectly okay. I want to reiterate though that you did nothing wrong . You chose something that felt good in the moment. He broke your trust. This i...

Hi Red_Scarlet, No need to apologise, you can take as much time as you need to reply and we'll be here. And this kind of thing is exactly what we're here for you to talk to us about. I just want to make sure that I'm getting my facts straight here, it sounds like you're saying you were abused by you...

Hi Hel, This sounds really positive! I would say not to pressure yourself to feel 100% okay, or like you have to completely move on immediately. It sounds like transitioning from romance to friendship is the right thing for you both, but it's okay to acknowledge the losses in there too if you're fee...

Hi Hel, I'm glad that your roommate was able to take responsibility and is doing her best to help reduce the fallout. She's probably right that if the flames of gossip aren't stoked then people will mostly move on and talk about other things, but it can still be hard knowing that such personal stuff...

Hi OtherAngel, The key thing to take away here is that porn isn't a great measure of how sex usually happens in real life. For a lot of people a lot of the time, if they're giving oral on a penis they won't have anything like the whole thing in their mouth. Just like that position of one person stan...

Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...

Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...

OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*

I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again

Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...

Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...

My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!

Hi Buddyboi, I'm confident that you've made the right decision in breaking up with your ex, but it's still a lot to grieve - I'm sorry. I honestly feel like you need to give yourself permission to feel like crap and just do the basics required to keep yourself healthy and your life ticking over for ...

Hi QU210054, The short answer is no, there isn't any evidence to suggest that circumcision will make pearly penile papules go away. Sure, sometimes they decrease or fade away over time but there isn't a direct link between getting circumcised and them going away if you already have them. Do you want...

Hi Elias! It's not at all unusual for you to be feeling aroused more, or noticing that you're more sensitive where you have bottom growth having started on T. Honestly, what you're describing sounds like what plenty of people, trans or not, experience when they first start to masturbate. This feels ...

Hi Elias, I'm late to the party here so probably you've already had the appointment but in case it's useful in the future there are two things you can ask for to make the speculum-insertion bit go easier. One is a smaller speculum, and the other is asking if you can insert it yourself

I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...

Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...

Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...

Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...

Hi Edhelraen,

I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does

Hi belled, Heather may have more to add when they get in, but I just wanted to add another voice saying that creating some independence sounds like a really good thing for you, and hopefully college will help you do that. Even simple things like switching some of those phonecalls for texts might hel...

You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.

Do you think that your family would judge you or react badly? Would you have somewhere to keep it and use it that was fairly private? For what it's worth, there is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about wanting to explore and enjoy your body, or using sex toys to do that. In fact, I'd say it sou...

Hey BeepBoop, No need to apologise, the good thing about these message boards is that you can pause for a while and come back whenever suits you - we're always happy to pick up the thread. So we have a piece that is specifically about living with unsupportive family in the pandemic, but it also appl...

That's mostly down to you and your sexuality! If you are attracted to someone, feel good around them and excited to have sex with them, you're more likely to enjoy that sex. If you're having sex with someone because you feel like you have to or it's something you "should" want, then the ch...