Hi Cream berry, sorry that you're having some frustration on this still, one thing to consider is that you might need a bit of a longer break, as a short break did help a bit. Side effects of medication are worth thinking about also, as there are some kinds of medication in particular that can chang...

Hi there klee, welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry to hear that you're having a bit of frustration with this at the moment. If you feel comfortable answering, have you done much experimenting with masturbation in your own time to see what you like best with manual sex so you can direct your boyfriend to tr...

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...

Hi ndisg, I am so glad to hear that we were able to assist 😊 It is also great to hear that you have friends that you can speak to about things, having supportive people in your life is so important. Also that is a wonderful first step you have taken in contacting the mental health services at your u...

Hi ndisg, yes, usually when talking about situations where someone saying "I love you" is "too soon", that "too soon" is where the relationship has not existed long enough for the people in it to know each other well at all, and have developed a level of emotional intim...

Hi Holly55, your healthcare provider will be able to provide more of the medical information on this, but essentially you might find you get a very light discharge/spotting/one final period depending on exactly where in your cycle the shot was administered and therefore how much uterine lining built...

Hi tulipgardener77, I hope the visit to the OB/GYN sheds some light. One thing to note is that "knows more" is more of a topic thing. OB/GYNs know a lot about the physical and medical parts of things, so they will be able to examine and help you with if there are any physiological issues e...

Hi there Otter8, I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to ask this question here, there is no need to apologise for asking this, it is the kind of question that we are here to answer! You might find making/buying a masturbation sleeve to be useful, as you will ejaculate inside it and it is there...

Hi Astra, sorry to hear that you're struggling with feelings of discomfort at the moment. The level of detail provided shows you have a great level of self awareness, so no need to apologise for a lack of specificity, you actually have noticed a lot about yourself and that isn't something that comes...

Hi there Astra, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm glad to hear that you have been aware of healthy binding before starting to wear your first binder. First of all, please rest assured that finding the right fit is something that many people have teething issues with at first. What I'm hearing is that w...

Hi there redrook18, I'm really sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much distress. Before we head into the discussion, do you have any self-soothing or distress tolerance techniques that you know that you could use? I'll put some links here for you that might help if you need some/some more: S...

Hi Rubix, I'm so glad to hear that TrevorSpace has been a positive experience for you! I hope you can continue to enjoy finding connection with other trans folks 😊 I'm also glad to hear that you are starting to find different techniques that work for you when masturbating. In terms of it taking long...

Hi irondeficient, glad to help. Being able to insert a finger that far bodes well for you being able to locate the opening in a mirror. It might also help to generally feel around what you can feel there (putting lube on the finger may help), if there is a slight bend you can navigate, or if you mig...

Hi there Eyeluvpickles - the only way you can know you're pregnant or not for sure is to take a pregnancy test, given that you used a condom, the risk is low. It sounds like you're feeling really stressed about this at the moment, so if you can take a moment to breathe and if you have some technique...

Hi there Rubix, I can very much relate to the idea of being super busy and feeling the need to "do all the things"! What I've found can help is to break down something into tiny goals, and then you can also better assess what time it'll take up and how you'll get there. For example: Step 1...

Hi there irondeficient, and welcome to Scarleteen. The vaginal canal is actually not entirely a straight line and can sit at varied angles for individuals, and this might not be intuitive at first. Have you ever tried inserting anything that is a bit smaller than a toy? Say a finger or a tampon or m...

Hi Raffles, glad to hear that Emily's advice has helped you be able to form a plan of when and how you will speak with your colleague about this. If it helps to think about, we are all rooting for you and hope it goes really well. Do let us know how you go!

Hi there Rubix, there is an online community run by the Trevor project that you might like here: TrevorSpace (an affirming, online community for LGBTQ young people between the ages of 13-24 years old run by The Trevor Project). I'm sure that other volunteers and staff will have some good recommendat...

Hi sky, I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling much better and in a better place. Also please don't feel guilty about the last month, I could tell that you were in a lot of distress that was really difficult to cope with and can be really hard to see things clearly, it's so wonderful that through t...

Hi there chrromie, and welcome to Scarleteen! You are taking a great first step in assessing whether you are in a place where sex with someone else is right for you where you're at right now. We have some great articles on Scarleteen that I will list below which could be a great starting off point f...

Hi Loveliy12, apologies if I was a bit confusing - I actually meant the opposite: adults who are able to healthily manage their anger, impulse control and/or understand the parameters of a healthy relationship dynamic will *not* abuse their partner. It’s more than just simple frustration or anger, i...

Hi there dana, and welcome to Scarleteen. You are right that there isn't one right or wrong way to experience sexual response: we can enjoy the same activities differently in different contexts, and there isn't a need to approach our own pleasure responses with an intent to "fix" our bodie...

Hi there Anonymousssss, do you mean that your nipple feels numb, or that touching your nipple doesn't provide you any sexual pleasure in any way, and is a bit akin to touching your elbow? If the latter, everyone is different in what kinds of touch they like best, and that which they're less into. Al...

Hi Loveliy12, the thing with this kind of definition is that the edges are fuzzy and overlap, as there is so much context to consider. Further things are to consider with violence ( trigger warning :, going to get more in depth about violence before the end of the rest of this post) Firstly the age ...

Hi there Loveliy12, I'm sorry to hear that you're having to live under these conditions with your father. I see you're currently planning to wait until you are independent to then be able to distance yourself from him. This can feel really isolating whilst you're waiting and living and experiencing ...