Hi StellaOs, I'm sorry to hear this is stressing you out to this degree! Though it does sound like this is ultimately an interaction that was consensual and even overall positive, and that what's tripping you up now is some feelings about it that you maybe didn't anticipate. To make sure I'm underst...

Hi E_F Really quick, before I give you my thoughts on this, can you please let me know what other account(s) is you? We ask in the guidelines that users no make multiple accounts, and part of the reason for that is it makes it hard to keep track of a users history, including what information they've...

Hi Nat,

Okay! Are there particular points from any of it that you want to discuss more?

Hi shoelaces99,

In addition to everything Orion said, I so want to note that, while there's nothing wrong with having a vibrator at fifteen, getting one will likely involve your mom or another adult purchasing it for you, as many places have laws prohibiting the sale of sex toys to minors.

I do want to clarify what Orion said; pre-ejaculate can pose a risk if there's direct contact between it and the vulva or vagina. But in this specific situation, given how brief the contact was and the fact there may not have been pre-ejaculate present at that point, I would say the risk here is clo...

Hi Lyle, Given that this is still in the realm of crush, rather than an ongoing romantic relationship you're now having to re-adjust to someone coming out as asexual, and that it sounds like you know that something that IS a priority for you in a relationship--sex--isn't remotely that for her, that ...

Hi Jay27, I'm sorry to hear that people have been rude about the fact you're autistic! That can for sure make it even harder to introduce yourself into spaces, since you're also trying to work out whether people are going to be weird about your autism. I will say that, in my experience, queer spaces...

Hi Mel, So, as you pointed out, "fetish" isn't the term that applies here since those technically require an object. Kink as it's commonly used could apply, but I honestly find it more useful to refer to things as being sexual interests, preferences, or even just "likes" rather t...

Hi unr3alun3arth, In addition to all the good points Latha made, I want to add that something that can help you feel less nervous is to remember that there's no one "correct" way to have sex with another woman, nor is there another way that's the most common or most expected (the same can ...

You're welcome, and no worries; we're always happy to answer questions, even ones where the answer seems obvious in retrospect!

In that case, I'd go with what your doctor says, since that specific antibiotic isn't mentioned in the article and a healthcare provider who has access to and knowledge of your medical history is going to be able to give you a better sense of whether a certain medication could interact poorly with t...

I'm so glad the article was helpful, and I hope you're able to get your hands on a copy of the book! And it's good to hear that there are things that help you feel confident. Do you have the option to dress the way that feels authentic to you much of the time? If so, even just leaning into that a bi...

Hi 55, You can find an overview of what things do and do not decrease birth control effectiveness here: Something You Can Worry About Less: Interference and Hormonal Birth Control . Too, generally speaking, when a healthcare provider prescribes you a medication, they'll let you know if it's likely t...

A really common way is get involved in spaces, groups, hobbies, etc that you either already enjoy or are curious about. That gives you a structured way to meet people you already at least have some basic interests in common with, and having a specific activity or topic that you're involved in can he...

Okay, so one option would be to experiment to see if there are things you can do to extend that period of enjoyment. That might be starting and stopping, or taking things slower to see if that leads to the throbbing taking more time before it happens.

Hi Mika, If you're looking specifically for dating options or options where it might lead to romance, then right now those options are pretty limited since a lot of platforms are for those 18 and older. You're right that places like Trevor Project are more for crisis or peer support; and the boards ...

Hi LostInTheSoup, I can certainly point you towards some potential resources! Too, I think that while being trans AND being relatively inexperienced with dating can make for a certain kind of tricky combination, a lot of the information out there about approaching sex and dating with limited experie...

Hi LowSea7204,

When you went to the doctor and got the steroid cream, did they give you any information on what they thought the cause might be? Too, have the two of you tried to see if using a condom makes this reaction more or less likely?

Got it. So, I do think that if you're in situation where you would not be supported if you came out, or you might be punished for it, that as frustrating as it is pursuing a relationship with him might not be the safest call for you right now. Do you feel like you and he could talk about what happen...

I'm so glad we we're able to help, and that you had a positive masturbation experience!

Hi John, I'm sorry to hear you're stuck trying to make sense of your sexual orientation in such a hostile climate, including within your own family. It sounds like there are two overlapping concerns here: one is how to proceed with this friend, the other is how to cope with your feelings more genera...

Hi bikinksterboy, So, since that piece was mine, I can offer a little context on why I chose to answer it the way I did. Part of it is, as you noted, is due to the fact that we don't tend to give step by step or really detailed instructions on how to do specific, sexual things. The main reason for t...

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Got it. So, you're already doing one of the things I'd recommend, which is stopping masturbation when this happens since, as you said, there's not point in continuing if you're no longer enjoying yourself. If you want to extend pleasure prior to that throbbing kicking in, have you noticed if there's...

Hi PleaseHelpAsap,

To make sure I'm understanding you correctly, is it that the throbbing means a dulling of sensation? Or like it almost goes numb?