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by Sam W
Mon Aug 18, 2014 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My hymen didnt bleed When it tore. Is this Normal ?
Replies: 9
Views: 2456

Re: My hymen didnt bleed When it tore. Is this Normal ?

Hi Lisa, It's likely that what you felt was your hymen (or corona) stretching. You can read more about that here: My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It You might also want to check out this piece, since it sounds like penetration is still causing some di...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 18, 2014 7:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Inducing periods
Replies: 3
Views: 1649

Re: Inducing periods

Hi hopee,

Nope, there is not really a way to induce a period. There are ways that a person can try to regulate their cycle (like via hormonal birth control), but not ways to make a period come exactly when you want it to.
by Sam W
Fri Aug 15, 2014 8:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Guilt
Replies: 5
Views: 2006

Re: Guilt

Hi bigbywolf, That sounds like you've got some rough emotions running around in your head. I'm glad you've opened up this conversation with your boyfriend, and it sounds like he's receptive to talking about it and helping you when these thoughts come up. So, I think your plan to have a more involved...
by Sam W
Fri Aug 15, 2014 7:53 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First Experiences with the OB-GYN
Replies: 5
Views: 3113

First Experiences with the OB-GYN

Something we see some users being nervous about going in for an exam with a gynecologist. So, for those of you who've been, were you worried before your first visit? What were you worried about? If you weren't worried, what helped you be that way? Is there anything that, in retrospect, you'd wish yo...
by Sam W
Fri Aug 15, 2014 8:46 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: If unwanted pregnancy happened in my community, your advice?
Replies: 5
Views: 2682

Re: If unwanted pregnancy happened in my community, your adv

I think this is one of those situations that's very tricky to discuss in the hypothetical , because how to approach it would depend very much on the individuals involved. Of the couple, they'd need to decide what consequences they'd be willing to face and how likely they are to occur, and what they'...
by Sam W
Fri Aug 15, 2014 7:42 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: If unwanted pregnancy happened in my community, your advice?
Replies: 5
Views: 2682

Re: If unwanted pregnancy happened in my community, your adv

Hi Morad,

Just to clarify, when you say cause to kill, are you referring to a law that says that the penalty for unmarried pregnancy is death, or to a practice that's common in the culture?
by Sam W
Thu Aug 14, 2014 8:38 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: The Fault In Our Stars
Replies: 11
Views: 5745

Re: The Fault In Our Stars

I loved TFIOS when it came out as a book, and I'm glad to hear that the movie kept the tone and spirit of the book. I'm with Redskies that the characters have always read as very realistic. There's a good balance between snarkiness and cynicism and genuine sweetness and vulnerability. I also feel li...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 14, 2014 8:24 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Alternative Menstrual Remedies
Replies: 5
Views: 2706

Re: Alternative Menstrual Remedies

I just want to second the bit in the original post about the stick-on heating pads. You can get a pack of three for around 8 bucks (the size that says it's for wrist and neck should work for most people) and they can be lifesavers if you need to be at work or school a day when you're having bad cram...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 14, 2014 7:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

Okay, so a good first step would be to check out the "help near you" link on the main Scarleteen webpage. This allows to search for resources in your area and see if there's one that fits your needs:
http://www.scarleteen.com/find_a_doc
by Sam W
Thu Aug 14, 2014 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Desensitization: Myth or Truth?
Replies: 3
Views: 15864

Re: Clitoral Desensitization: Myth or Truth?

You're welcome, and I'm glad you found it helpful :)
by Sam W
Thu Aug 14, 2014 7:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm fifteen and I think I might be bi
Replies: 3
Views: 1461

Re: I'm fifteen and I think I might be bi

You're welcome :)
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 9:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Desensitization: Myth or Truth?
Replies: 3
Views: 15864

Re: Clitoral Desensitization: Myth or Truth?

Hi CrimsonCat, The short answer is nope, you cannot desensitize or hurt yourself from masturbating frequently. With the showerhead, as long as you aren't directing a spray of water into your vagina, you can't hurt yourself by doing that. There is simply no data to support the idea that masturbating ...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 8:45 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

Okay, so you'd like something a little more immediate than your psychiatrist (or would you feel comfortable asking if you two could talk sooner than planned)? Is something like a support group more what you'd like, or would you prefer something more like a one on one counselor (or something else ent...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 8:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

When you say "this" can you clarify for me what you're referring to?
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 8:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

Right on :) I'd say now is the time to bust them out.

At the this point, is there anything else (within the scope of things we're able to do) that you'd like help with or to talk about?
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

It's totally normal to feel scared in a moment like this. And it's definitely normal to wish that answers would arrive faster than they are, or that you could go back in time. But all the worry in the world won't make those answers appear faster, and will just make you unhappy in the interim. All yo...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

If protection wasn't used, then yes, there is some risk of STI transmission. However, as I said, you've taken the tests you can (and it sounds like plan to test for HIV when you can). So, in the interim it's best just to take care of yourself until you get more information via the results. I do want...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: One Night Stand & Flashbacks
Replies: 15
Views: 3525

Re: One Night Stand & Flashbacks

Ah, okay, I follow. I think it's good that you've figured out that the sleep thing is something you're still not comfortable with. If nothing else, it's something you can communicate to future partners so that they don't trigger that fear for you. At this point, you've taken the steps you can on the...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm fifteen and I think I might be bi
Replies: 3
Views: 1461

Re: I'm fifteen and I think I might be bi

Hi sfed, Well, the way you describe your feelings certainly matches with the common definition of bisexuality. But, beyond that, you get to decide for yourself how you'd like to define your sexual orientation. So, if you feel that bi best describes your feelings? Then that's what you get to call you...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possible pregnancy risk?
Replies: 7
Views: 2549

Re: Possible pregnancy risk?

You're welcome :)

Okay, sounds good. Let us know when you'd like the info to get you started.

Yep, it's still low risk no matter where you were in your cycle.
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possible pregnancy risk?
Replies: 7
Views: 2549

Re: Possible pregnancy risk?

As Mo said, at this point you just have to wait until you can take a pregnancy test. Doing some self-care in the interim can help make the wait less stressful: Self-Care a La Carte Even if you were "looking for attention?" Not an excuse for someone to engage in sexual behavior with you wit...
by Sam W
Wed Aug 13, 2014 7:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: condom problem
Replies: 2
Views: 1639

Re: condom problem

Hi Peachy, I would try shopping around (or least reading up at) sites such as luckybloke, which can recommend condoms for different needs. Also, be aware that some companies will not label snugger condoms as such, so you may still need to experiment, with ones that say "large" or "med...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 12, 2014 9:09 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Painful Sex Over 1 Year After Childbirth...
Replies: 3
Views: 1572

Re: Painful Sex Over 1 Year After Childbirth...

Hi gymmaniac, It's great that you've been tying to go slow and use lots of lube, as those are both good ways to keep intercourse from being painful. But it sounds like there may be something else up here and, sadly, we can't diagnose you through the internet. So it's definitely a sound plan to talk ...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 12, 2014 8:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: feeling guilty..
Replies: 16
Views: 3971

Re: feeling guilty..

Hi Kela,

Mo won't be back until later, but I'll leave a note that you've given us an update. Also, I want to give you giant kudos for taking the step of talking to your mom, and I'm glad that she reacted in a positive way to what you had to say :)
by Sam W
Tue Aug 12, 2014 7:20 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: When did your sex ed start?
Replies: 9
Views: 3927

Re: When did your sex ed start?

Mine started slightly before I hit puberty (maybe age 9 or 10). My mom left the "It's Perfectly Normal" and "It's not the Stork" lying around where she knew I would find them. So I read them and enjoyed them. Nothing in them was a total shock, since my parents were the type to us...

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