I really do want to stand up to them. But what happens is that I think about it a lot and all that anger builds up in me. And then I finally burst and yell and cry. Do you have any advice on how to talk to them without yelling or crying?

Ok that sounds good! Thank you! And yeah we can keep talking here. I have my college small group tonight for the first time. My mom was concerned that it was at my leader's house. Like I would rather have it be at my church bc it's closer, but I'm not bothered that it's at a house. My mom kept askin...

Does 2pm(idk what time that is ur time) on the 25th work for you? I don't know how long I'll be able to talk since I have school, but I think I can talk and do some of my hw at the same time.

I do still want to talk about it and I don't feel too exposed. I would love to talk to you, but the chat window opens up when I'm called up to eat dinner. The time zones are different.

Yeah I read the articles. Some of those things sound like what my parents do. I want my parents to realize that those articles basically describe them, but they would never read them. I know there are people out there with parents like mine. I want to know what they do.

I know my parents love me unconditionally. I know they would never physically abuse me. But they do not treat me like an adult. They think I know nothing of the world. They think I am naïve. And you're right, I am scared. I can't just do any of the stuff I actually want to. I don't want them to be d...

Yeah. I really want my situation to change. I did babysit my nephews by myself the other day, which they never let me do before.

I don't know how I would be able to use either the disabilities services or adoptee resources without my parents finding out. They would be very against them. It's very hard for me to be able to hide things. I also have 3 younger siblings who pop up at random times and will tell my parents. The only...

I can try to talk to my older brother, but idk if he'll be able to give me any good advice. He doesn't want to talk to my parents directly about me. I met my friend at a homeschool co-op when we were sophomores. We became really good friends and she is really the only friend I still talk to from our...

They'll take my phone away, I won't be able to go out with friends, and they won't trust me any more. And they'll be disappointed in me.

Heather, It is literally the hardest thing to do. I can't just move out bc I don't have the finances. If I did I would find an apartment with my friend who also wants to get away from her parents. The difference between me and my friend tho is that she can drive and her parents want her to move out....

Um I don't really know any time someone has been able to change my parents' mind. Like my older brother tries and fails. Some of my friends' parents have tried to tell them they need to change their parenting tactics, but my parents got all offended and said they didn't know what it's like to raise ...

Um well when they are against something they are very against it and they don't change their minds easily. I can't really think of a time they actually changed their mind. When I was a kid I always wanted a DS and an iPod touch, but they never got me one bc you were able to message other people with...

I asked him if he wanted to hang out on Halloween and he said he was going to work. I know he's working, but i do feel like he is kinda ignoring me. Bc he could totally take days off.

My parents are back now. How should I talk to them about giving me more autonomy?

Yeah all of that makes sense. My best friend knows how my life is and she knows how hard it is to stand up to my parents. She doesn't think my parents will give me more autonomy either. How do I show them that I need it? Whenever I do anything like mature or something, and I tell my parents they alw...

Well yeah I wouldn't phrase it like that. But could you tell me why you think that? And I'm not going to date who that WANT me to date if I don't like him. It's like it's my decision, I'm not just going to date someone bc they like him. I don't know what they would do if I just brought a guy home. L...

Yeah I am going to talk to my parents when they get back from vacation about giving me more autonomy if they want me to get a boyfriend. They want me to date the guy I don't like. They approve of him. It's like he's 3 years younger than me and I don't like him like that. And yeah they are. I wanted ...

Ok so for example, my younger brother wanted to play fortnite but my mom said he couldn't anymore bc she found out that there was shooting in it. So when my older brother was talking to my mom, he tried to get my mom to let my younger brother play it. But she still didn't let him. So he kind tries t...

My parents don't really say anything when my brother gives me a startle seizure, since my doctor said they're the hardest to control. I'm on multiple meds but they can't control startle seizures. I get really mad at my brother when he causes my seizures bc I have told him multiple times not to do ce...

I can't really lock my door, bc I share my room with my sister so she needs to be able to get in and out. My doctor said that startle seizures are the hardest seizures to control. I don't know how I'd get a backup phone. I just got this phone when I was 18. My oldest brother doesn't want to get invo...

But I don't want to get my stuff taken away since it's really the only way I can talk to my friends you know? I can't drive and I do school online so I don't go anywhere. I do have a lock on my door but my parents don't want me to lock it in case I have a seizure. My parents just tell me to be nicer...

Well they'd obviously take my phone and prolly my tv. They wouldn't trust me either. They prolly wouldn't let me go out with friends either. I don't know what to do to gain that independence, since my parents aren't really letting me, you know? My parents are going on vacation for a week and me and ...

I would get in a lot of trouble if I just kept my phone. My brother didn't really set boundaries, he just moved out. But I can't move out bc I don't have the finances. They just expect me to do everything they tell me to do. I asked them if me and sister had gone to college(like moved into a dorm) w...

I read that third article, but there's nothing to do about how to handle ur parents. The people that raised you and provide for you financially. They're in control of everything. Plus they won't listen to me if I told them anything. What should I do?

I've read the second one before and the difference is the girl in it is 16 and I'm going to be 20. That's a difference of 4 years age wise.