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by Sam W
Sat Apr 29, 2017 5:47 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mental health and safe sex
Replies: 5
Views: 3004

Re: Mental health and safe sex

Hi Jellyfish, If you're finding yourself getting stuck on those "what ifs" when all the information you have says the "what ifs" are not realistic, that means there is something deeper going on. This article is a really good place to start, and you can take a look at it and see i...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 29, 2017 5:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hello, some advice would be appreciated please
Replies: 51
Views: 15223

Re: Hello, some advice would be appreciated please

One option would be to explain it to her in a similar way to how you explained it to us: that you do plan on doing it, but you feel it's best to hold off for a little bit (you can give a little more detail if you want, but I do think you're obligated to). With feeling stuck in a rut, if you do think...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 28, 2017 6:36 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Boyfriend depressed?
Replies: 38
Views: 16088

Re: Boyfriend depressed?

Before his exams started, was he acting in a similar way? In other words, has him ignoring you been something that's been a part of your relationship for awhile?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 28, 2017 5:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?
Replies: 30
Views: 8001

Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

If you feel like you're having compulsive behaviors around porn use or masturbation, that's something to talk to a mental healthcare provider about (as would be the case with any compulsive behavior). You're right that holding yourself or your partner to unrealistic expectations around sex can make ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 28, 2017 5:09 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Boyfriend depressed?
Replies: 38
Views: 16088

Re: Boyfriend depressed?

I think it's fair to say that he's in a rough place right now, and he has been up front with you about his need for space. Relationships do have rough patches, and those patches are likely when one or both people are stressed (I will say that stress is not an excuse to be a jerk to your partner, so ...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 27, 2017 8:04 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Boyfriend depressed?
Replies: 38
Views: 16088

Re: Boyfriend depressed?

Hi Wildprincess, It sounds like another conversation might be in order. From what you've described, you're not feeling super confident in your relationship, and he might not be feeling super invested. Your feelings about not wanting to break up because you consider him your first sexual partner is u...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 27, 2017 5:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?
Replies: 30
Views: 8001

Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

Then it sounds like the better option is to find something to replace masturbation with, at least for a little while (masturbation is nothing to feel guilty over, but if you'd rather avoid it right now, that's absolutely okay). I think, as Karyn said above, the way to manage those frustrated and ups...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 7:36 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Feminine underthings?
Replies: 35
Views: 18090

Re: Feminine underthings?

You could try strapless bras, or see if you can find bras that have translucent straps that won't be as easily seen through clothing.
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 7:34 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took Birth Control Early
Replies: 3
Views: 1409

Re: Took Birth Control Early

You're welcome. And yes, if you are not feeling comfortable without the condoms, going back to them is a good choice.
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 7:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How have you met your partners?
Replies: 13
Views: 9059

How have you met your partners?

When people talk about dating, or even finding partners for more casual encounters, we often have one or two images in our head of the "normal" ways or places to meet people. But the truth is, we meet partners in all sorts of places, so this is a space to talk about the different ways peop...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 6:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took Birth Control Early
Replies: 3
Views: 1409

Re: Took Birth Control Early

Hi gatesy, Taking your pill a few hours early should not decrease its effectiveness. If you took your pill 2-3 hours before having an incident of diarrhea, then they should have been absorbed. It sounds like you're not feeling super comfortable using the pill plus withdrawal as your method of protec...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 5:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control
Replies: 1
Views: 931

Re: Birth Control

Hi ap15,

If you switched pill types with no break in between, then you should have a high level of protection from the pill. I'd suggest calling your pharmacist to ask them about that as well.
by Sam W
Tue Apr 25, 2017 5:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm in a closeted polyamorous relationship and I need advice.
Replies: 1
Views: 1444

Re: I'm in a closeted polyamorous relationship and I need advice.

Hi velvetfrank, That fear of judgement can be really unpleasant to carry around, and unfortunately there's no way to guarantee that certain people won't judge you when they find out that you're in a poly relationship. I will say that there's no specific timeline for telling people you're close to th...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 24, 2017 4:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Kitten/ Pet play, Predicament bondage.
Replies: 30
Views: 11783

Re: Kitten/ Pet play, Predicament bondage.

The issue there would likely be finding one that fit you comfortably. The benefit of something like confusedone described is that you could tailor it to fit your neck so that is was comfortable and safe to wear.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:54 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Nexplanon side effects
Replies: 3
Views: 3128

Re: Nexplanon side effects

Hi Kela,

Given that this is has been going on for a few months, I think it's time to check in with a healthcare provider. It may be this is within the normal variation of irritation, but talking with a healthcare provider will help rule out other causes.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: pregnancy test.
Replies: 1
Views: 1199

Re: pregnancy test.

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bi but only attracted to one guy
Replies: 3
Views: 1331

Re: Bi but only attracted to one guy

Hi Nethershell, Being bisexual doesn't always mean your attraction to each gender is the same, just that you're attracted to more than one. So it sounds like for you you're more attracted to women, but there's at least one guy (and maybe more in the future) who you find attractive. That's totally fi...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 22, 2017 5:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the pill and a condom enough?
Replies: 5
Views: 2503

Re: Is the pill and a condom enough?

It does! We recommend combining the pill and a condom because it offers a high level of protection against both pregnancy and STIs. With this kind of sex we can never say it's 100% without risk, but that combination makes the risk incredibly, incredibly low.
by Sam W
Fri Apr 21, 2017 7:20 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD risk
Replies: 8
Views: 3794

Re: STD risk

It sounds like you have a lot of really rough emotions right now. I think one thing that might help is to do what you can to forgive yourself for the choice you made, or make peace with it. You made the choice you thought was right based on how you were feeling. It just so happens that this relation...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 21, 2017 5:57 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD risk
Replies: 8
Views: 3794

Re: STD risk

Feeling uncomfortable about testing is pretty common, especially given how much stigma we still attach to people being sexual. Can I ask what in particular makes you feel uncomfortable with the idea? As for which things can be transmitted, this article is really helpful: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get o...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 21, 2017 4:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hpv
Replies: 6
Views: 2417

Re: Hpv

Hi Fadedpassion, An abnormal pap doesn't automatically mean you have HPV. The exact meaning of the result depends on what type of abnormal cells they found. As for your concerns about the genetic testing, I would ask your healthcare provider the specifics of the test when you see them. Right now it ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 21, 2017 4:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: STD risk
Replies: 8
Views: 3794

Re: STD risk

Hi Gurl93, Unprotected oral sex does pose a risk of STI transmission. And because the most common symptom of certain STIs is no symptom at all, the only for sure way to know is to get tested. Testing can feel intimidating if you've never done it before, but we've got this article to help guide you t...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 20, 2017 7:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting after sex
Replies: 10
Views: 3594

Re: Spotting after sex

Good to know. Since you talked to your doctor about these concerns, and I assume they asked you some questions in order to rule out other causes (if they didn't please correct me), then you can assume their diagnosis took those more serious possibilities into account and dismissed them.
by Sam W
Thu Apr 20, 2017 7:15 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Advice on dealing with a friend who sexually assaulted another friend
Replies: 3
Views: 6557

Re: Advice on dealing with a friend who sexually assaulted another friend

Hi SophieR, This sounds like a sticky situation to be in. My first piece of advice would be to check-in with A about how they're feeling about the fact that their friends may still be in contact with C. I would make that part of a bigger check-in with A to see how they're doing and if there is anyth...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 20, 2017 6:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ddl/lg
Replies: 5
Views: 7465

Re: ddl/lg

Hi Bikinksterboy,

You might be interested in this piece. It's by Ella Dawson and she talks about her relationship to this dynamic: https://femsplain.com/good-girl-256c7da71350#.r6z2leioi

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