Hi sky, Thank you for saying that! I actually ended up going for a surgical option which improved some things, but was not the end-all-be-all solution. So it's still kind of a daily battle. In terms of the sexuality thing, it's sort of up to you. Unfortunately, not all service providers have gotten ...

Hi Herstory, I can understand where the struggle comes from! If you've been on the receiving end of mistreatment, abuse, or violence, it can be hard to imagine what positive and healthy interaction looks like. Not to mention the fact that popular media doesn't show a lot of examples of healthy relat...

Hi there sky, I'm sorry to hear that you've been experiencing this pain and these symptoms. What your doctor did (not talking through your options, taking your input, or listening to what you said you wanted/needed) was not what a competent and effective healthcare provider should do. I'm glad you m...

Hi there cosmicdaisy, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry to hear that you're not able to find much pleasure in masturbation. It makes sense that you aren't getting wet if it doesn't feel that pleasurable, because lubrication is something that usually goes hand in hand with arousal and pleasure. (Y...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Julia, Like Sam said, withdrawal bleeding is pretty much the same as a period, so you should ideally wait a day or two into that pill-free week, and if you still haven't shown any bleeding/spotting by then, that would be the time for a pregnancy test. If you get a period (or have a withdrawal ble...

Welcome to Scarleteen! Learning about what your body's sexual likes and dislikes is a process that takes time, just like it would with someone else! If you're just starting out, there's a fair amount of trial and error to figuring out what works best for you. You mentioned using a pillow most of the...

Hi RadiantRay! These are such good questions to be asking. We have an article exactly about breaking down historical misconceptions about virginity - have you read through Magical Cups and Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context yet? Personally, the first time that I had intercourse was with someone wit...

Hi TownHall, Glad to hear that you were able to talk with your provider and came up with an option for contraception! Here are the answers to your questions: 1) It should start releasing hormones almost immediately after insertion (as body heat warms it up and helps for those hormones to be released...

Hi syabunny11, and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened. You didn't deserve to have that done or said to you, as a young kid as well. It sounds totally invasive, confusing, and really upsetting. It sounds like it's taken some time to process what happened, and...

Hi sky! Just wanted to add in that I'm glad that you're still here. We're always around to talk about good things that make life worth living, big and small. <3 As for the pronoun/sexuality thing, I can only speak to my own experience: I didn't really settle on my current definition of my sexuality ...

Hi Pan, We've already answered these types of questions about ingesting semen here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=8788&p=44357 I have to ask you to not to ask these types of questions repeatedly, as it takes energy and time away from our staff and volunteers who are tryin...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Luna, We can't really give you an exact percentage of pregnancy risk, because that's pretty much impossible to calculate. That being said, if you're taking the oral contraceptive exactly the way that you should be, then your chance of pregnancy is definitely reduced. You can read more about that ...

Hi Kittenz, and welcome to Scarleteen! I can't say for sure what you're feeling is, because this is the internet and I'm not a doctor. But the likelihood is that it's just a benign natural feature of your right-now body that may eventually go away. Bodies have all sorts of dips and curves and bumps ...

Hi Es2003, and welcome to Scarleteen! If you'd like to convert back to a 3 weeks on-withdrawal bleed cycle, then yes, you would stop taking your active pills and start back up again after 7 days. You can always take that last 7 days of inactive pills if it helps you keep up the habit of taking the p...

My favorite favorite favorite method back when I was able to get pregnant was the NuvaRing. I found it difficult to take a pill every day at the same time, and it gave me a lot of weird mood side effects that I hated. But the NuvaRing gave me just the right amount of hormones to do the job without g...

Hi coolcats, Way to go! I'm so glad you're tackling things in a way that feels manageable. You're totally right - if we don't do some of the small anxiety-producing stuff on the front end, it can definitely lead to bigger panic-producing problems later. Sometimes that's the only thing that really ke...

For me, I love when my partner goes out of their way to fix something practical in our shared space- cleaning the dishes, or doing the laundry, or making a really nice dinner. After long days at work it's always so nice to come home to things that I was kind of dreading having to do all day already ...

That’s AMAZING coolcats!! Seriously, that is quite a list and you tackled it, all on your own. Congrats, buddy. You’re doing great.

Hi coolcats, Absolutely. Deep breaths. At the risk of sounding trite (feel free to tell me to f off if so), money is just money. It's weird pieces of paper and numbers and accounts and balances, and it's all incredibly complicated and a lot of it is out of our hands. It's not who you are, and you're...

Hi there phantomdog, Hmmm, I'm not entirely sure what's going on here. Do you experience any kind of pain while it's happening? You mentioned a feeling associated with it (I'm assuming that means an internal sensation of some kind) - could you potentially describe it more? Have you talked about it w...

Hey DArwin, Just wanted to jump in here real quick and ask - have you browsed through our articles that we have about healthy relationships? I was thinking that you might find a few of them helpful, especially Jealousy: Making Friends With The Green-Eyed Monster and Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Boar...

Echoing what Heather said - while it sucks that you’ve had to deal with this ignorance and discrimination in the first place, I’m really glad that you’ve been able to feel more secure in your ability to advocate for yourself and find resources, coolcat. I think that makes you a very cool cat.

Hi coolcats, Just popping in to say that if you felt like it, you could always reach out to the DOJ about the way that you're being treated, because it's definitely an ADA violation. Libraries that are open to the public (and especially academic libraries) have to provide access and support for peop...