Sounds to me like something is creating these feelings of conflict. How about we start with what you do want and do feel good about? Are you saying you feel both a physical and emotional desire to be sexual with him? If so, do you geel good about those feelings? Those times you say you force yoursel...

Really, this is something where you try and few brands and dind out which you like best. But really, one simple, water-based lubricant does not differ much from the others, so this will most likely be based on what stores within your reach carry.

Okay. So, you do, then, have something sexual you can engage in without fear, and perhaps now is a good time to revisit masturbation and explore it a bit more. All of this is most likely temporary, just like most things in life. Does your partner understand that, and is he being relaxed and okay abo...

I did not see you mention masturbation in that list. Does that feel scary, too?

Sure thing!

How have you been overall, btw? We haven't seen you around in a bit.

Safer sex is a term used to discuss protecting ourselves from sexually transmitted infections. Is that what you are asking about, or are you asking about pregnancy and those methods? If you're asking about pregnancy, you can look at the estimated effectiveness for any two methods -- including condom...

I'd say that, if anything, people being MORE curious about things presented to them as deviant or off-limits is usually the way that stuff works. :) But really, just because your family raised you a certain way doesn't mean you won't think about something or feel curious. For sure, some people can f...

What is it? It's a kind of abuse, or part of abuse as a whole, where someone forces or coerces someone else when it comes to their own reproductive wants and choices. Like: • Sabotaging birth control methods (putting holes in a condom, saying it is on when it isn't or taking it off halfway through, ...

I don't know that I'd say it's a big whoop for anyone to feel curious about what it's like to be someone else, no matter what the "someone else" is all about. I'd also say it's pretty common for heterosexual people to fantasize about a same-sex couple who are the gender of people they tend...

If you don't trust your healthcare provider, I'd suggest asking if they can refer you to someone else. Truly, it's great you like and trust us, but we can't be anyone's doctor, and what a doctor has to say about severe pain is pretty much the only sound word on it. So, if you feel like you need to a...

You can't yourself become pregnant, but someone you are having some kind of sexual relationship with can because of sex with you. And whether you're having the kind of sex that poses real risks of pregnancy or not, again and again, they keep having pregnancy scares or are freaking out about becoming...

Again, Berry, the best place to START with questions about any medication you are using is with whoever has prescribed them to you. Same goes with who to take reports of sharp pains to. In general, however, it often takes people a few cycles of pills for them to get in the groove of them, and for an...

I opened this one with one habit particularly in mind: we see a lot of users who are in the habit of using the internet in certain ways, or at certain places, that make them feel freaked out or uncomfortable, rather than being enriching or helpful. But really, anything we get in the habit of can be ...

So, you just had a pregnancy or STI scare. Now what? A lot of people seem to need help figuring out how to move forward with scares, particularly when it comes to trying changes in choices or behavior, like adding condoms or another method of contraception, stepping back from sex for a while, or tal...

Some people have a very hard time trusting methods of contraception they can't see working: hormonal methods, or devices like IUDs. So, even though these are often the methods they choose, they aren't feel all that certain about them. If this sounds like you, let's talk here about that. Learning to ...

It's common enough for young people (and all the more so for LGBTQ young people) to be in sexual relationships where they do not feel they can be -- or just do not want to be -- honest with parents about the whole of their relationship, or some parts of it or sex within it. Obviously, that can be st...

Okay. So, if your partner is having pain, that is probably because they are not excited and lubricated enough for what you're trying to do. In other words, you two will need to spend more time doing other sexual things they like before going for intercourse, and then when she does feel very excited ...

We often have quite a few users who are currently in, and have often grown up with, fears or misinformation about sex or pregnancy based in religious beliefs. Those can be pretty tough to deal with, since accurate, sound -- and secular -- information usually only gets you so far. When you have gotte...

If you are engaging in the kind of sex, or plan to, that poses risk of pregnancy, and you don't want to become pregnant (or have a sexual partner who does), you need to use at least one method of contraception. But we know from study and a lot of broad trails that what BEST prevents pregnancy is usi...

If you're using a method of contraception (birth control), and don't understand how it works, how about we use this spot to go ahead and ask and answer those questions here where everyone can benefit from them?

So, you don't get a method or a part of it, I'm happy to do some explaining right here.

I'm having a bit of a hard time understanding you.

If you are saying you are attempting to have intercourse with a partner, and it is difficult for them and you, is this something where this is causing someone any pain, or just something where you can't seem to get it to happen?

Really, when it comes to how to help people, the best way to go is usually to just let them know you are available, and then ask them what you can do. They are the ones who will know what they need and what they are open to with a given person.

As I already explained, the way you have been using the ring and the way you used it this time does not suggest any cause for concern to me about reduced effectiveness.

The thing is, almost anything can get in the way of intimacy if people let it. In other words, if someone is basically using the time and energy they have for intimacy with something in such a way, or so much, that there really isn't room for anyone or anything else, it can create problems. The tric...

Well, menstrual suppression does not always haooen when people attempt it regardless, but again, this is not the way to do this with the ring, so I am actually surprised it has suppressed them for you often at all. Do know, too, that when people suppress often, they are going to have some spotting a...