Yep - many people are undiagnosed and might never even know they have something like endo because they think everyone experiences that much pain during their period, or are just reluctant to bring it up to a healthcare professional and/or would rather just "tough it out". The truth is, as ...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! You worded it just fine, and I want to assure you there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. When we fantasize about someone like a celebrity, we're not really harming them or anyone. There's nothing really unethical about having those thoughts and masturbating to...

Hi swimminginspace, I just wanted to jump in and add that I'm proud of how self aware you are and how you're both acknowledging that this situation sucks while also seeing the positive and not giving up on finding a chosen family. I do hope your new friendship is longlasting but also remember that i...

That's a great start! Tighter shirts you're comfortable with are a good place to start, and it's okay to push past your previous comfort levels if it's something you know you want and as long as it isn't affecting you/causing you body dysmorphia. The wonderful thing is you can now start exploring di...

Hi ZionP, I'm just jumping in to let you know we're a bit backed up today but will get back to you tomorrow!

You're right in your frustrations about the dance, those rules are unfair and don't help your feelings of wanting to be perceived the same as everyone else. Society does "other" queer people, as you have unfortunately found out firsthand, and it's a valid thing to be frustrated and upset a...

So there are a few options here, and while yes, perhaps it is best to discuss whether the relationship should continue or not (given that you two want different things), I don't want to go that route yet unless it's what you want. It sounds like you're still fully in it and wanting to find a way to ...

Hi XLoL2007, welcome to the boards! It sounds like you care deeply about her and you've been giving this your all. Sometimes we see a future with someone and think they're our person, but it doesn't work out if they're not feeling the same way. From what you're describing it sounds like she might ha...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! In order to give you the best advice we can, I want to ask a couple questions for context, if that's okay. First, have you ever had ANY conversations about this kind of topic? Is this the kind of thing you think she'd be open minded about discussing? In the meantime,...

May I ask what your definition of innocence is, and if you feel like it fits you? You mentioned in a previous post you like giving off that "innocence" vibe, is that because you want others to perceive you that way/it already is how you think they perceive you, or how you actually want the...

Hi Jay27, I hope it's okay if I jump in. I am also autistic and I can relate to the anxiety you're describing <3 It makes me glad to hear you were able to shower and take your meds and eat, even if just a sandwich - any food is better than no food! It's okay if you can't get any work done today. If ...

Hi acearohanda, have you brought this up to a gynecologist or any healthcare professional before? I know you mentioned it's been like this forever, but I wonder if it could be something other than your natural scent. Sometimes it's a matter of an unbalanced pH, although I'm glad to hear you're not u...

Hi SillyMcGoof, hope it's okay that I jump in. I think that last point you made is the most important one, and it's great that you realized that. Sometimes we just aren't in the right mental space for stuff like dating and sex, and that's okay - it's way better that we acknowledge it and work on it,...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! This sounds like it's been frustrating, I'm sorry you've been dealing with pain and discomfort. Sex of any kind should not be painful, so when it is, it's a sign something else is going on. Often it is what you mentioned already - that the person is not relaxed, comf...

Makes total sense! I'm glad you all were able to figure that out and feel more confident

Hi acearohanda, Heather is OOTO now and until Wednesday, but I didn't want you to think we forgot about you. They'll send you some resources when they're back, so for now can you provide me with some more info - mostly just where you're located (county and zip code), and any other info you think is ...

Hi there. What you're describing makes a lot of sense, it's valid for you to be feeling conflicted. You're a good friend for being happy for him; but of course, if you like him, it's normal to feel sad too. It can be confusing to feel both things at the same time, but you're doing a good job at sepa...

That sounds like the route to take next time, because truly, if you're uncomfortable, it won't be a good experience for either of you. It sounds like your partner is very supportive and kind, so it would be great if you can talk about it with her and that way next time - if it happens again - you ca...

Makes sense, and it sounds like you've tried different things already. I'm glad you're open to trying to write things down, I do think that might be helpful! I also wonder if fantasizing on your own doesn't work, what about a different type of sexual media than the porn you usually watch? There are ...

I totally understand what you're saying, and the truth is 14 is a rough age for a LOT of people. You feel like you're not a kid anymore, but also not an adult yet, and you're in kind of a limbo. Do you have access to mental health resources like a therapist? It might be good to have a professional t...

It's sounding to me like one of the things causing frustration is that the act of masturbation is being framed around the orgasm part of it, which is just one part of it (and to many people, not even part of it at all). It would help to see masturbating as a fun and/or sexy act that helps you relax ...

I'm so sorry you've been in situations you didn't 100% want to go through and regret afterwards, sex should be a certain YES and not carry guilt or regret after. Has this been the case with one specific person, or with every sexual encounter? As for your parents being disappointed, is this something...

So I think it's important to mention that not everyone else feels those things - in fact, tons of people have never had an orgasm at all, or have never felt "horny" either. On top of that, those things feel different for everyone. The way they're typically described is just sort of a gener...

Ah, I can see why that is a concern. Do you think it's a conversation he would ever be open to having, if you want to be able to tell him? Or if you don't, which is also okay, do you think he would even ask or bring it up?

Hi Theansweris42, it's nice hearing from you! Congrats on the invite, it sounds like you're really a role model and that's awesome. Unfortunately you're right, traveling while Queer can be scary and sometimes risky. I don't have experience traveling to either of those countries or any similar, but I...