If I remember correctly, you started seeing a therapist recently for your anxiety: have they given you any strategies to use when you get caught up in worries about pregnancy?

If a test would make you feel better, you can absolutely take one, but given that you had a normal withdrawal bleed there's no need to test.

Yep, when a menstrual cup is overfull, it just leaks the same way that you would get leaks from a tampon that had absorbed all it could. If you do get a cup, you'll get a sense over time of how often you need to empty it to prevent leaks.

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Hi cannavaro,

I just wanted to add, on top of the excellent stuff thewrit3r posted, we have a couple of articles you might find useful as you do some more thinking and reflecting on your orientation:
Q is for Questioning
The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone

I'm not familiar with TPE, but you could certainly get in touch with the company and ask! Also, I just re-read your initial post and saw that you're not allergic to latex (I must have read that wrongly the first time) in which case a Keeper should be just fine for you if you want to try one. As for ...

Unfortunately I don't know of any menstrual cups that are made of something other than latex and silicone: silicone is considered to be pretty hypoallergenic, so it could be tough finding one that isn't silicone. If a menstrual cup doesn't work out, there are a few other reusable options you could t...

Thanks for elaborating on why you're interested in an IUD - that helps. It sounds like you've got a lot going on in your life at the moment on top of this specific worry, so what I would suggest first of all is bumping up finding a counselor/therapist on your priority list. I understand that with su...

Hi Kabith. I currently have a Mirena IUD, and it was inserted using twilight sedation - I don't remember anything about the procedure. It's not quite the same as a general anaesthetic, but the effect is similar: you remember as much as if you had been put completely under. However, mine was done in ...

It's entirely possible, as Mo and thewrit3r have said, that a sexual relationship just isn't the best fit for the two of you right now. However, if ending the sexual part of your relationship isn't something you want to consider right now, I'd suggest sitting down with him and having a really open t...

Glad we could help.

It might be worth bringing that up with your therapist next time you see them, and asking if they'd be willing to work on that with you. Maybe even mention the height thing specifically as a starting point? As for the vulnerability that comes with someone getting to know you better (I wouldn't say i...

Maybe it would help to remember that pretty much no one is good at something they've never done? (And even for folks who've had plenty of experience, each new partner is different, so there's always a learning curve!) I can't guarantee that if you do end up dating, that it won't ruin your friendship...

It sounds like you're feeling a lot of frustration about wanting to experience orgasm during intercourse, and it can definitely be frustrating to want something and to feel like it's not possible. However, that's just the way sex goes sometimes. Not everyone's body will do absolutely everything, and...

Can you talk a little bit more about what it is that scares you about possibly falling for him? Is it just the concerns you've mentioned already, about the possibility of ruining the friendship and not knowing what to say, or is there something else you're worried about?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

Hi Anonymous77, you mentioned in your other post that your period has gone from being irregular to regular and now slightly irregular again. Sex all by itself doesn't change your period (unless you become pregnant in which case you won't have a period) but bodies are not always predictable, and peri...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...

You're very welcome.

Definitely get in touch with your doctor, and see what he recommends. I understand wanting to avoid the longer-term use of antibiotics, but that's something to bring up with your doctor too - there are pros and cons, to be sure, but a healthcare provider will be able to give you the best information...

Glad you've got an answer!

It's possible that the soap is irritating the entrance to your urethra and making UTIs more likely, so switching soaps is definitely worth a try. Something like Dr Bronner's is usually pretty non-irritating for most folks: it's a castile soap (made with olive oil or coconut oil) and those tend to be...

Sure thing. So however you feel most comfortable communicating with her (email, phone call, whatever) you can say something along the lines of, "I'm dealing with some things in my life at the moment that mean I need a little bit of time to myself. I'm traveling over the next couple of weeks, an...

Hi richardmendoza. We have a guide to the pregnancy and STI risks for various sexual activities right here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

These two pieces should help too:
You Cannot Become Pregnant When You Have Pants On
Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

Wanting a romantic and/or sexual relationship is something most people experience at some point, often for the first time in their teens, so the answer to "why is this happening" is just because you're human! :) It's understandable that you have that strong want for a relationship without ...