I do want to say that while it may be that everyone in your peer circles has functional, safe families they are going home to for the holidays, I hope you can recognize that that's not about soooooo many people having that, and you not having it. Really, if all your friends truly have that (rather ...

hey, sorry to take so long to respond! i saw your post yesterday morning, but then i had to catch a train to meet my friend in order to stay with her for the weekend and didn't have much access to the internet until now. a lot of thoughts are running through my head right now, so the second post bel...

omg, Atonement that's super exciting!! as someone who's currently a senior in college, i just wanna give a big CONGRATULATIONS!!!

That's a really handy list-- thank you so much for taking the time to write that out for me! I really appreciate it, and just how understanding you and the rest of the staff have been about this whole thing. Sometimes it's all too easy for me to feel like I'm overreacting to a seemingly not-so-bad s...

also, some tips on how to cope with being alone for winter break would also be nice, too, since i also haven't done that either.

yeah, this really is a great solution! i'm really lucky to have such a great friend who's willing to do this for me (and she totally understood considering she also came from a toxic household herself). honestly some extra safety tips couldn't hurt, if you'd like to share them-- i have some in mind ...

Still away, but seeing this on my phone. Leases are not going to limit a houseguest or sitter just because the person renting has moved out, so I see no cause for concern about the law here. hmm, okay! that's really good to know-- her lease doesn't end until the end of january anyway (and i'll be l...

Yeah, for sure. I'll still keep messaging folks later, but for now I'll work on my paper due tonight (now in 7 hours). *sigh*

Thanks for taking time to chat with me, Ashleah!

Actually, I just heard back from my friend with the studio apartment! So, basically she moved out and is in another state, but she's still paying the bills for it and she has an air mattress and all that. Only thing is, since her landlord doesn't know she moved out, I'm thinking it's probably not su...

But like, also please don't feel obligated to if you don't want to right now, like I can wait around.

I'm sorry, I don't want to be a burden to anyone here, honestly.

Hey Ashleah! Yeah, I know Heather is planning on checking back sometime whenever she's free (since she mentioned being today being her off-day, so I just assumed she wasn't gonna be on for the rest of today). So yeah, totally not trying to bug anyone to respond, just letting folks know that I'm avai...

UPDATE: To continue off my post right above this one here, my friend with the studio apartment isn't getting back to me (she might be at work, not responding, lost her phone, idk), so now I'm currently compiling a list of people I could contact if she doesn't get back to me by like midnight tonight....

You are absolutely not over-reacting in feeling and responding as you do about this. When we're on the receiving end of emotional abuse by caregivers when we're kids or teens, they basically install pain-buttons in us that are specific to the kinds of ways they treated us badly and the kinds of abu...

Thanks so much, Heather. I'm so sorry you also had to go through toxic family dynamics, but I'm glad you're someone I can be in solidarity with. <3 Yeah, I might just text my friend who lives in her studio apartment that I mentioned earlier to see if she'd like to stay with me for a bit as one of th...

Cosign to Redskies there. Especially since, honestly, it sounds like your home means guaranteed attacks and dangers, while your dorm is only a maybe. As someone who lived in very unsafe neighborhoods and buildings when it came to crime for a long time -- and also didn't have a home to go back to at...

Hey Sam and Redskies! Thank you so so much for your speedy replies, especially considering this is a sorta time-sensitive issue, and I didn't know I'd need to leave my current housing for break until very recently so this is all a whirlwind for me-- I know you're all probably so busy as it is, so I ...

[TW: mention of break-ins, home invasion, abusive parents] hey there! so, to make a long story very short: over winter break, i can't stay in the housing near my college and i have to go home and stay with my parents. there's a higher risk of break-ins happening over winter break in the housing near...

wow, i wrote a whole reply and then my computer deleted it as i pressed "submit"..... :x hopefully, i get everything in that i meant to say earlier. anyway, sorry I took so long to respond! I was too busy working on/procrastinating finals these past few days, so that took up a lot of my ti...

Thanks so much, Redskies! Your words of encouragement mean a lot :) Also, heads up, this is gonna be another ramble-y post (sorry, it's just really nice to get my thoughts out in a safe space!)... Hmm, perhaps that's what manifesting is really about-- being able to recognize opportunities/situations...

I also forgot to mention in my above-post that I'm actually really proud of myself for a few somethings in this situation: even though I got kinda excited a little early about this girl, I'm proud of myself for not feeling compelled to stay in a situation that I eventually figured out I ultimately d...

thanks so much for your reply! yeah, i'd totally be willing to pick this up tomorrow, but i'll just keep writing here and you can respond whenever works for you. and good luck with your internet!! *fingers crossed* yeah, there's definitely some positives in this situation that i've found-- like, it'...

Thanks, Redskies-- I really appreciate the warm internet-hugs and hot beverage. And also the fact that you're not judgmental about my last post I made :) Like, I really enjoy just getting to know someone for a few dates, having fun, maybe making out, and then seeing where I'd like to go from there--...

EDIT TO POST ON LAST PAGE: actually, screw it. asking for some exclusivity before sex is too much to ask of someone, and it's also kinda childish of me at 21. i'll just have to build a thicker skin to this so that i don't feel the need to ask for exclusivity first

Another Update: i didn't know where to put this and i didn't wanna start a new thread, so here goes... as i've been going on more dates with people lately, i've been starting to have a clearer picture of what i want out of dating-- which is definitely a good thing! but my problem now is that i'm wo...

hey Redskies! yeah, for sure. i've already done way too much scrambling around the Home Office website and other sources looking at visa and immigration information. it's gonna be pretty tough to get back there :? but yeah, i'm definitely gonna take you up on those suggestions, so thank you! i also ...