Stuff definitely happens! It sounds like you're getting there. I think three things to get used to are 1 - sometimes we make good decisions that still upset other people and that's ok, 2 - we have permission to go back on what we have said and 3 - many of our valued relationships will end in some wa...

Hi lb07, I'm so sorry that you are having to process things from when you were 3. Thoughts like the ones you describe are actually pretty common for survivors of abuse. For some of us, putting ourselves in the position of of hypothetically wanting the fantasy version of something bad, it can feel li...

I think of weathering a breakup like this (friend-break-up or otherwise) like it's raining acid (and FIRE), it's terrible, it hurts and you can run around getting hurt more, trying to convince the weather to be cool imagining you have the power to coax it - OR, you can take shelter, tend to your saf...

Hi Silly! It sounds like this person is making things so much harder for you than they need to be, and I'm so sorry they left you in tears. That's so often how it goes. I want to reiterate what Heather said about trusting your self, and valuing your right to be free of the pressure they're putting y...

Hey Lyle, The part of your question which jumps out at me is the phrase "convince myself that this is not what i truly feel". What does that mean to you? My first thought is that it is mighty difficult/impossible to sort all our thoughts into "true feelings" or not, because at th...

Thankyou for taking it seriously. I really appreciate it. I'll let the rest of the team know what we've agreed.

It's good to hear you're working with someone too! This might be a good thing to bring up with them, espcially the bit about wanting to see things written down.

Hi heybulldog, That is very much not cool behaviour. Lying about your experience to get different responses from us is very manipulative. Please remember that we are real people, who deserve a bit more honesty (who incedentally review previous posts whenever we reply ;)!) Getting onto the anxiety pa...

It sounds like you resolved most of this on your own! In terms of whether you would be able to feel it coming out, I'd say the internal bodily feeling of ejaculating is very subjective, but I do think in most cases we tend to notice if there is liquid beneath us if it wasn't there before! In terms o...

Hi Namelessss! Thanks for being here! Arousal non-concordance is a useful consideration when partnered sex just isn't leading to any physical pleasure, due to differring patterns of arousal between you and your partner. In those situations masturbation followed by good communication is a really usef...

Hey Lyle, just so you know, I've answered this question in your other thread.

Hi Lyle, The liquid you're describing is called pre-ejaculate (or precum). It usually doesn't contain sperm. Sometimes it does if you ejaculated actual sperm recently before the pre-ejaculate appeared. That is why direct genital contact always includes a small risk of causing pregnancy. But you are ...

Aw I'm so sorry this is happening to you, and that healthcare can be so slow, but I am glad your mom is helping you get that appointment. I totally agree that you don't need to do any more searching. It is difficult to accept but sometimes if we're waiting on reliable information and expertise, it c...

Hi Max! Your english is great, and I'm glad you're here! I would recommend seeing a doctor, as they can do a physical examination and can give you more information on what it is you're feeling with your knuckle. It's possible that what you've felt isn't the cervix, or that there is something else go...

Hey naurmi,

Just a reminder to stick to this thread: worried?, and the conversation you're having there about your relationship.

(Also, my understanding of hyperfixation in ADHD (fellow diagnosee here) is that its more of a task oriented thing where we might have tasks or interests that absorb our attention very easily, when our ability to direct our attention to a preferred task or subject is at its weakest because of stress...

I'm totally nodding along to Sam's answers! When you talk about betraying your ideals I wonder if it could be useful to write a list of what you're thinking of as ideals, and ask some questions of yourself about those statements. I have a feeling that asking "Is this actually a belief?" an...

Just to add, flamboyantGuy: in your question you say that "sex while drunk is illegal" but I think it's more accurate to say that in most countries, the rape itself is the thing that is illegal, not the being-drunk part. Which is different from say, drunk-driving for example, where you dru...

Hey, As promised here's a summary of the other thread: Hi! sorry to be so active here,, i just needed to talk about this. So a few months ago, my teacher started talking to me about his personal problems (i.e. his problems with his gf and how she doesn't want to have sex w him) and it somehow escala...

Hey Naurmi Just to echo Sam, I think it's worth saying that no this isn't your fault at all! We have all have a right to an education where we never have to do anything extra, like asking a teacher not to flirt with us or giving them information about our dating life. Stopping that situation from ha...

Hi anonyminpanick! I think it's good you've recognised this as 'seeking reassurance'. Whenever that happens there's a very very high chance that the reassurance we're seeking is not the thing we need (which is probably while it feels so confusing to recieve it and want more). That's the same reason ...

Hi Namerling! Firstly I think it's worth mentioning that this is suuuuuuper common. Sexuality, in the world we live in, not to mention the forever changing nature of how we do or don't experience that sexuality, can be kinda terrifying. I don't think it has to be. There are lots of factors that make...

Hey, I think you make a pretty good case to not have a relationship with your dad anymore! It sounds like there's money stuff with your mum which still might affect you, but not anything that would require you to actually spend time with him? With things like this, where the pushback itself feels it...

Hey Lazulirose, I think I want to add here that any hypothetical resentment he would hold for you not wanting sex would not be your responsibility at all. I also think sometimes the chemistry isn't there as much as we want it to be, and that can affect our communication and our interest in sex. So I...

Hey Cursed, I'm so sorry you're going through this mental turmoil. It sounds like you've had a pretty unsteady childhood, with some rather unsvoury adults in tow, which often is going to lead to uncertainty around how to interract positively with other people and how to reflect on those events. I'll...

Hey anonym05! This is a slightly different approach to the suggestions above, but I'm thinking that you do get to use your discretion with instructions like "use within 3 months" if you personally don't think it looks, tastes or smells bad, and you don't want to get rid of it. But that's y...