Hello cherryrain! I understand that distracting yourself from the libido spike doesn't really work. Do the extremely detailed fantasies stress you out as well, maybe because they eat up large chunks of your day that you'd rather be using for something else? Are they ever simply enjoyable? Also, have...

Hello ez.as.pie! In the interest of honesty and maintaining others' boundaries as well as your own, it's important to state right at the beginning (that is, when romance/sexual attraction starts slipping into the friendship, but no promises have been made and no expectations have been aired) what yo...

Hi Raffles, The question of being "trans enough" or "nb enough" or "gnc enough" etc. is a widespread doubt, and I'm sorry that this has been stressing you out for some time, alongside the horrible misgendering you've been confronting. First: yes, you are absolutely agen...

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You're welcome C91, thanks for trusting us with this. I understand your worry that your friend could've just said it was rape to support you, but honestly, the people who love us no matter what are usually the people who can most quickly recognize when we're being harmed, and who are the first to sp...

Hello vambrace, Jumping in here to send you a couple of general resources for partners of trans people looking to medically transition. A lot of this might be stuff you're already aware of, but maybe you'll find some useful stuff in there. And yeah, while there may be some awkward patches during the...

Hi C91, Welcome to Scarleteen, and thank you for messaging us about this. First off, I'm so very sorry that you went through what sounds like an extremely distressing situation. Secondly, I want you to know that you are in no way overreacting by calling it assault or even rape. What happened to you ...

Hey Red_Scarlet, I hope it's OK that I'm chiming in. I read through your posts, and I'm really sorry that your trauma from abuse has been invalidated by your parents for so long. It's not your fault, you're not overreacting, and it's definitely not okay behaviour or "how kids learn to behave&qu...

Hey Hel! Honestly I love the idea of hot girl summer, and I agree that it's a great aesthetic to aspire to once school's out! As long as you don't treat it as more than an aesthetic, you're in for a good, fulfilling time. I'd say that a glow-up would target your physical, emotional, and intellectual...

Hey Hel, I read through this thread, and I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I'm glad, though, that you've been very resilient throughout the hard times you've been having for the past few months, and that you're focusing on rebuilding your friendship with your ex! And yeah, it's best to jus...

Hi, sorry to jump in, but I think it's wonderful that you've got an action plan in mind, and that it's such a healthy one! I think you'll feel much better now that you've decided that you're just going to give your boyfriend space and let him figure his stuff out, and that in the meantime, you'll ge...

Sari and red lipstick and super dainty silver jewelry! The vibe I want to give off is the Enchantress from the Fairytopia movies, but less twee and and edgier hahaha

Hi jenny01, I can't tell you about my personal experience, sorry! But this is super-duper normal. Involuntary vaginal lubrication happens all the time, and that includes during sleep. And vaginal lubrication usually doesn't depend on our having an orgasm: vaginas start to get wet when we start feeli...

Hi jenny01, I'm sorry that your friend's going through a rough time, which will inevitably get worse when his girlfriend finally breaks it off. That period will be tougher on you as well, because you'll feel the need to support him emotionally even more than you've already been doing. I hope that yo...

Hey! Brown vaginal discharge is perfectly normal, it is just old blood that's taken a little longer to leave the uterus. Blood that stays in the uterus longer gets oxidized, which makes it look dark red/brown. Bright red blood means it's fresh. Implantation bleeding typically only lasts 24-48 hours,...

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Wishing you lots of luck! I went through your thread, and it looks like you're at a place of acceptance, while also actively ensuring that your super valuable friendship with xim stays healthy and communicative. I hope your weekend trip goes swimmingly, Elias!

Hiya pathconnected, I've been exactly where you are, and I know just how frustrating it can be to find that only a small pool of queer media is enjoyable, while everything else is meh. I can share with you how I dealt with the issue. Since engaging with media (especially media that you intend to use...

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Jumping in to say that I really appreciate confusedinlove's point about orientation markers being a matter of choice and comfort, and not a matter of discovering and describing "who you really are". These so-called labels exist for you to find community and some sense of stability in your ...

Hello Juliaho90, You're fully protected throughout period week, when you're having your withdrawal bleed. Since you've been regular with your pills this month, and will be regular with them next month, no pregnancy is possible. In addition to that, you have condoms! So that's a double layer of prote...

Hi girlplayer34, I'm noticing a trend in your replies: they tend to gloss over a lot of the information and assurances that we've written out for you in this thread, only to circle back to some point that we've already covered. Like Elise said, I know that anxieties and emotions do persist, even whe...

Hi pascal, While it isn't unusual for some people to experience light bleeding for a day or two after vaginal intercourse (whether it's the first time or the fiftieth), heavy bleeding of the sort you're experiencing is not a normal outcome. Since a) your period isn't due, b) the bleeding is heavier ...

Hi Juliaho90, Is it recommended though to take the pill at the exact same time each day? Like exactly at 1030am for perfect use? If I take it within the 3 hour window you mentioned, is that still perfect use? It's still perfect use within the 3-hour window, the pill's efficacy stays the same! If I w...

Hello! To kick off this thread (as I'm sure our other staff and volunteers will have loads of recs to give you), I'd like to recommend the following books:- 1) Wait, What?: A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up , by our founder Heather Corinna and Isabella Rotman --> inclusive ...