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by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 03, 2019 12:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12157

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

I don't know if this will help or not, but one way to help psych yourself up for a conversation is to realize that by not talking to him because you're afraid of x, y, and z happening will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. He'll never know you don't understand his answer if you don't say so. A larger d...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 03, 2019 11:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Early sign of abuse or something else?
Replies: 18
Views: 3080

Re: Early sign of abuse or something else?

While I 100% agree your boyfriend's behavior is abusive, controlling, manipulative, and terrifying, I just want to quickly add that behavior doesn't have to be abusive for you to leave. You can leave if you're unhappy. You can leave if you're uncomfortable. You can leave if you're dissatisfied. You ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Dec 02, 2019 11:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How do I calm down??
Replies: 4
Views: 1333

Re: How do I calm down??

Hi, Sunflower12345! Mo has excellent advice! The only thing I wanted to add was - you said you are generally a pretty anxious person. Does your anxiety often have you feeling stuck like this? Do you have some healthy coping mechanisms in place for this anxiety? Do you see anyone about your anxiety? ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 28, 2019 10:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to know you’re in a healthy relationship
Replies: 2
Views: 1382

Re: How to know you’re in a healthy relationship

So, the cool thing is that there's actually a good amount of resources out there explaining what healthy relationships look like! Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationship Models 10 Tenants of a Healthy Relationship 14 Signs of a Healthy Relationship Regarding Partnership 10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Nov 24, 2019 8:14 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't fit more than a finger inside my vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 2333

Re: Can't fit more than a finger inside my vagina

The above advice about relaxing and making it something fun is great advice! For my own comments, just a note that you can use tampons and even menstrual cups even with a small opening. I would suggest starting with tampons before cups just for ease of use. Look for tampons that mention something li...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Nov 22, 2019 11:36 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: The Virginity Scam
Replies: 7
Views: 1755

Re: The Virginity Scam

My answers are rather short, so sorry if you were looking for something longer! 1. Subjective patriarchal concept of female purity rooted in misogyny and cisheteronormativity. Virgin could possibly be a useful term in certain circumstances if there were not so much stigma and negativity attached to ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Nov 20, 2019 10:36 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting while on Yasmin
Replies: 28
Views: 4664

Re: Spotting while on Yasmin

It does take our bodies a little while to completely adjust to hormonal changes, even when those hormonal changes are prompted by and controlled by something like birth control. Spotting can last for up to 3 - 4 months when you first start birth control. After that, your body should adjust, and any ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Nov 20, 2019 8:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Oral sex
Replies: 2
Views: 1344

Re: Oral sex

Sorry my post is a bit rushed - it sounds like this may be something that you expect to happen rather soon, so I just wanted to get some thoughts out here for you ASAP! . If someone can't respect that you want to use protection, especially without any STI screenings beforehand, then they're unsafe b...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Nov 19, 2019 9:58 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I might be bi but I don't know how to experiment
Replies: 9
Views: 2819

Re: I might be bi but I don't know how to experiment

Hi, helloeveryone. All of us who've questioned our identity understands exact what you're going through, because we've been there, too! Perhaps it would help you if you could meet up with other LGBTQ+ folk and talk with them? Hear about their journeys, how they questioned, connect with others who ar...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Nov 18, 2019 3:03 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly Relationship Turned Awry
Replies: 41
Views: 7642

Re: Poly Relationship Turned Awry

Herstory, I have some book recs, if they might help you process? I know we all have different ways we learn and process best. Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft is a highly recommended book that's been getting more attention in recent years. Lundy is a counselor who works with abusive men, and h...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 14, 2019 11:44 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Haven't had my period in a month
Replies: 2
Views: 921

Re: Haven't had my period in a month

It sounds like you're pretty regular since you have an expected time you get your period, but how long have you had your period and how long has it been regular? It can take about six years for a period to become consistently regular, so it's possible this could just be regular hormonal fluctuations...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Nov 11, 2019 3:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Very complicated situation, need some help clearing my head
Replies: 5
Views: 1853

Re: Very complicated situation, need some help clearing my head

Hi, Osmund. I completely second everything Heather has said. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please know we're here for you. It's okay if you need time to process and think and come back to this. This is about you , so you do whatever you need to be able to handle this all. One thing that st...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Nov 08, 2019 11:09 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tinder Match part 2
Replies: 2
Views: 1543

Re: Tinder Match part 2

It's unclear what your own goals and interests are for being on Tinder (since you didn't say), but I think when you unmatch and block someone, that's your gut telling you that you feel somehow unsafe with this person, and you should trust that feeling. Think about where this feeling of regret for bl...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 07, 2019 9:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly Relationship Turned Awry
Replies: 41
Views: 7642

Re: Poly Relationship Turned Awry

I'm so sorry, Herstory. I'll admit that I'm kind of relieved this is a turning point for you in ending this relationship, but I wish you were having a better time and better experiences. I hope you'll still give counseling for yourself a shot. You've been through a lot and are going through a lot. Y...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 07, 2019 3:55 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: not wearing a bra
Replies: 6
Views: 1683

Re: not wearing a bra

I also do not wear a bra at all either aside from sports bras when working out. I have sensory and semi-dysphoria issues surrounding bras. Fortunately, I am smaller chested, so I do not need the support. I usually camouflage my lack of bra by utilizing multiple layers, nipple covers, thicker and sli...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 07, 2019 3:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I process these feelings?
Replies: 29
Views: 6587

Re: How can I process these feelings?

Hi, humanbeing. I'm so sorry for what you've been through. It can be such a difficult journey just to be able to say what we've been through. Getting past that even can seem like an insurmountable obstacle. But you've done SO MUCH work just by realizing what's happened and accepting that your feelin...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 07, 2019 3:38 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I Think I was Raped, Now I'm Suicidal
Replies: 19
Views: 4265

Re: I Think I was Raped, Now I'm Suicidal

straightlines, I just wanted to say thank you for speaking up and asking for help. You are so brave, and you've done such a big and wonderful thing by fighting for yourself. We are rooting for you.
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Nov 07, 2019 3:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Oral contraceptive question
Replies: 28
Views: 4219

Re: Oral contraceptive question

As for reviews, I would try not to get too bogged down by them! Reviews can be really useful, but reviews also tend to draw people who are having an extreme feeling towards the product. Especially when we have negative reactions, we a lot of the times really feel the need to feel heard. Someone who ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Nov 04, 2019 11:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly Relationship Turned Awry
Replies: 41
Views: 7642

Re: Poly Relationship Turned Awry

Hi, Herstory. I think Sam W, Sian, and Heather have had amazing responses to you, and I completely second all of their questions and suggestions. I want to ask something of you in a pretty plain manner. You don't have to answer this to me or on the board, but I do hope you'll think about it. This is...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Nov 04, 2019 10:45 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I think I might have some sort of "trans gal" version of a period?
Replies: 4
Views: 4125

Re: I think I might have some sort of "trans gal" version of a period?

You might be interested to know that this seems to be a fairly common (but rarely talked about) experience, the " bloodless period " for transfem folk taking E! Over here , an explanation for why this might be was offered: Question: “If you take the same amount of hormones every day your l...

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