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by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Dec 19, 2019 9:25 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: update on my post-abortion
Replies: 14
Views: 4020

Re: update on my post-abortion

Hi, Justyne! I'm so glad you were able to access the healthcare you needed and that you're doing relatively well. Something like this can feel like a pretty big secret - I can understand why you really want to tell someone supportive in your life. For talking with your Aunt, I suggest you do so in w...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Dec 19, 2019 1:09 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about bj's
Replies: 7
Views: 1915

Re: My confusion about bj's

I completely second everything Heather is saying. As well, Minnie&Me, I want to add: you do not owe anyone sex or any sexual acts, no matter what that person would prefer or what your friends are doing. Your do not pay some sort of relationship rent by providing sexual intimacy. There are many f...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 18, 2019 9:52 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Racism, Ableism and Dating Apps
Replies: 5
Views: 1511

Re: Racism, Ableism and Dating Apps

As a generally disinterested aroace, I don't have any dating app stories I can share with you. However, the part in your post about socioeconomical status and privilege really stands out to me, and I do want to discuss it a bit. This kind of fear you have towards your privilege reminds me of many ot...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 18, 2019 8:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Need some big sister advice
Replies: 10
Views: 1781

Re: Need some big sister advice

Hi, GolfingGirl. I also have a younger sister, though we have a bit more of an age gap of four years (ending up five years apart in school). I still vividly remember the night she excitedly yanked me into her room to tell me all about losing her v-card, how she'd been excited about this for years, a...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 18, 2019 5:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I love him but is it time to let go?
Replies: 11
Views: 2114

Re: I love him but is it time to let go?

I think taking some distance from him is a really smart and healthy idea. It can be really hard to let go of and move past strong feelings, like a crush, if you're constantly in someone's presence and being with them. Taking some space can help you get new perspective and help those strong, intense ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 17, 2019 6:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Weird bleeding
Replies: 9
Views: 2094

Re: Weird bleeding

I don't mean to pile on, so if the posts in your thread are getting too overwhelming, let me know, Jellyfish! I just wanted to add that the tint of period blood is usually due to some pretty simple reasons. First: concentration - or how much blood there is. The lighter your flow, the less concentrat...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 17, 2019 6:43 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: i feel like my weight will cause me to never find love
Replies: 8
Views: 2867

Re: i feel like my weight will cause me to never find love

I'm so glad some of those resources helped, and you are feeling a bit better! Please let us know if you have any more questions or would like any more resources about any subject. <3
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Dec 16, 2019 2:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Weird bleeding
Replies: 9
Views: 2094

Re: Weird bleeding

How long have you had the IUD? Your last topic mentioned no bleeding for two years but this one says two months? If you've only had the IUD for a couple of months, this is likely just your body still adjusting to the IUD and coming to a hormonal balance. If you've had the IUD for a while, spotting t...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Dec 16, 2019 12:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: i feel like my weight will cause me to never find love
Replies: 8
Views: 2867

Re: i feel like my weight will cause me to never find love

Your ask is breaking my heart. Being fat doesn't make you ugly or undesireable. It just makes you fat, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. ScarleTeen has at least two great starting resources on how to navigate being fat in this thin-obsessed world that I would highly suggest you check o...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Dec 15, 2019 2:06 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Change in Period
Replies: 16
Views: 4582

Re: Change in Period

I think the staff will be better equipped to help you with resources for finding professional help for anxiety, so I'm going to leave that to them. However, I can help with the period consistency you're noticing. First, I'm going to quote this from earlier: Hi BooksandOceans, It's not unusual to hav...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Dec 14, 2019 7:52 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting while on Yasmin
Replies: 28
Views: 4702

Re: Spotting while on Yasmin

If you're traveling, the pill will stay the most effective if you take the pill at the time you would take it in your home time zone. So yes, take it at 11 am Japan time to match the 10 am Singapore time that you have been taking it at. Typically, you can fly with medications in check-in or carry-on...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Dec 13, 2019 3:00 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pregnancy Test
Replies: 9
Views: 1981

Re: Pregnancy Test

Please excuse my brevity! I'm on mobile right now, but I wanted to get you a response now because I may have a late night tonight. Are you feeling calmer now that you've seen that second negative? You're right that first response has been tested as one of the most sensitive otc tests you can take. L...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Dec 12, 2019 11:00 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pregnancy Test
Replies: 9
Views: 1981

Re: Pregnancy Test

When it's best to take a pregnancy test can actually depend on the brand you buy and how sensitive it is! For the most accurate result, you should wait one week after your first missed period, but there are some tests that you can receive an accurate positive on the first day of your missed period (...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Dec 12, 2019 6:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

Therapy and the other suggestions we've been making are not about numbing or deadening yourself or not feeling your feelings. Utilizing these methods - even taking medication - you will still feel your feelings. You will just have better methods and techniques for processing these feelings. They are...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 11, 2019 10:42 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

(The thing about doing things is that you can't just try them once. You have to keep working on them or yeah, they will not be effective, as you've discovered. For example, you mentioned that you don't do therapy unless you're in a crisis, and a couple of the staff shared with you their own experien...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 11, 2019 5:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

I think my last question was a bit poorly worded - sorry about that! We know why you're here, but how exactly can we offer you support/help/resources? Could you take some time to think and clearly lay out for us your expectations of what sort of guidance/resources you need? We've tried encouraging y...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 10, 2019 11:33 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Unsure if I have a vaginal issue?
Replies: 3
Views: 1184

Re: Unsure if I have a vaginal issue?

Just for educational purposes (this isn't a diagnosis!!!), I want to quickly add that not all vaginal infections (like yeast infections) have to always present with (funky) discharge. It's possible to have a yeast infection and not have any discharge but maybe have a white coating in and around you...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Dec 08, 2019 7:40 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Spotting while on Yasmin
Replies: 28
Views: 4702

Re: Spotting while on Yasmin

It can take your body a couple months to adjust to the hormone regimen that birth control pills are. You may experience odd spotting and late/no withdrawl bleeding (as well as other symptoms like nausea, sore breasts, etc.) until those few months are up. You may even find after that time that you ha...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Dec 07, 2019 3:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

I'm sorry, larajeancovey23. I didn't mean to hurt you or imply that you were broken or needed "fixing". What I'm hearing from you is that you're unhappy, dissatisfied with some things happening in your life, anxious, and generally struggling with moving on from bad experiences. None of tha...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Dec 07, 2019 2:56 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Change in Period
Replies: 16
Views: 4582

Re: Change in Period

Well, personal anecdotes on reddit definitely aren't a medically verified source of facts backed by research, so I wouldn't put too much weight on anything you find there. If you have questions, it would be much better to consult with your doctor or another medically verified source rather than traw...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Dec 06, 2019 8:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

Just same shit..distract yourself with happy things What techniques have you been working on with your therapist in order to do this? Is your therapist helping you practice mindfulness? Have they been walking you through CBT techniques? Maybe you have grounding exercises to practice? It doesn't sou...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Dec 05, 2019 11:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

How often do you talk about these feelings (unable to maintain happiness, being afraid of being happy, connecting your happiness to being involved with another person, feeling suicidal when feelings of abandonment come up, inability to deal with disappointment, difficulty with change, lack of focus ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 04, 2019 1:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

okay...he hasn't replied..how do I word that we need to have a conversation? How are you feeling? What do you want to hash out in the conversation? What times can you talk? Summarize that and present it to him. For example (this should always be in your own words, this is JUST to give you an idea -...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Dec 04, 2019 1:18 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Early sign of abuse or something else?
Replies: 18
Views: 3127

Re: Early sign of abuse or something else?

Thanks - I like my username, too. ;p This is going to be on the short side (compared to what I want to right) because I have to dash soon, but I just had to respond to your latest post. The thing about abusers is that they don't reveal themselves as abusers overnight.They start slowly. That's how th...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Dec 03, 2019 2:34 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 12255

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

You'll never know how he feels if you don't talk about it and ask him. Assumptions are meaningless because you're not a mind reader, and they're only being fed by your own anxiety. However, if you're unable to talk with him, maybe that's your answer for now. Would it help you not dwell on this if yo...

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