I second getting checked out with a healthcare provider! I just want to suggest you specifically look into an endocrinologist if at all possible in addition to checking in with a gyno. Since it's their specialty, endocrinologists can be a lot better at catching issues like PCOS and endometriosis tha...

You're afraid for the trauma and fear and crisis to stop for the same reason that those of us with mental illnesses get afraid to seek help or take medication or learn healthy and adaptive coping mechanisms. Change is hard and scary because it represents an unknown , and humans are generally not sup...

I'm really sorry you're feeling so stuck on this trauma you experienced, Lostwander. al beat me to posting, but I think I expanded on some options a bit, so I'm going to go ahead and post what I wrote up, which really agrees with what al is saying. There is no one thing you're "supposed" t...

Wow, 0PT1M15T1C, that's big! It's no wonder you've got so much on your mind right now. I just want to say that it's okay if you can't handle putting your story in your friends book right now. Even with your name and details changed, you'll know whose story that is. That's a big thing to do, and ther...

Hey, Occidentalis; I'm so sorry for what you've gone through and how it's currently impacting you. <3 It sounds like you have a really good support system, though, and that's great. How would you feel about backing off having sex so often for a while, as you sort out your mind and your body and your...

I don't think it would have been pressuring her to, in the moment, stop and ask what she wanted from the moment with you touching her and her not touching you. It's okay to have a conversation "in the moment". Having a conversation can help clarify boundaries and desires for the both of yo...

Completely agreed with Siân! The idea you get about romance from most visual media is just... lacking a lot. Partially probably for time constraints but also just due to plain hyperbole and fantastical romanticizing. Romance and kissing and actions don't just "happen" to us in the same way...

Sorry for bumping this after no response for a week, but I've been mulling over your question and something occurred to me earlier today! Firstly: Heather's response is honestly so excellent, I second everything they said. Now. The only thing I want to add is... how much have you and your boyfriend ...

I'm so glad you're staying the course, Belcano! I know it's still tough, but it sounds like you're doing some really good work. It probably wouldn't be a bad idea to bring up what you said here about wanting someone you want to spend all your time with in therapy so you can break down and process wh...

Sorry to post again - I just realized something that I missed in your OP the first time around. It sounds like you're going to your ex's house to get your sweatshirt? If I've understood that correctly and you're still set on seeing your ex-, please seriously consider rescheduling to meet a more neut...

Another thing to try would be to set aside a time where you can really relax and get in touch with your body without putting pressure on yourself to orgasm or otherwise achieving a specific result from masturbating. Instead, you can focus on what things feel good to your brain and body and explore ...

I'm going to make this quick since you're looking for a fast response, but I do have somewhere to be shortly, so this is going to be my bare minimum response just so you've had someone to talk to. My sister recently had the chance to reconnect with an ex- who started pushing her away, being mean to ...

Another option, very similar to mutual masturbation, would be to ask your girlfriend to use your hand to simulate herself. You let your hand completely relax, she puts her hand over yours, and she uses her hand to control the pressure, speed, etc. Then not only are you seeing exactly what she likes,...

I'm so sorry to hear that things went downhill, 0PT1M15T1C! </3 That sucks. I'm really glad you did talk with your parents and your counselor, though, even if it sounds like your parents are not the best prepared to be able to support you in the way you need. Nonconsensual activities can often be pa...

You should replace the batteries whenever a) they die, or b) you notice the vibration is weaker. Vibrators with low batteries can often not produce the power they did with full batteries, so it may be harder to feel simulation from them when the batteries are close to dying - like a flashlight can g...

For clarification: does your low libido bother you personally or is it more that it bothers your boyfriend/you are bothered about how you perceive this must be impacting your boyfriend?

Hey, there! (He isn't one of my pronoun sets, but I know you were just guessing based off previous interactions, so I'm not bothered. I don't remember anyone's pronouns here off the top of my head either, lol.) What I am proud of is that you took the time to assess how you were feeling and were able...

That's such a great update to hear, BuddyBoi21! Those are all some really great steps to take care of yourself. <3 Have fun at the boxing gym! I started something similar a couple months ago myself and have been really enjoying it - and love interacting with the people there as well.

How do you deal with people getting away with awful things? Honestly? I give myself a day or so to vent in spaces where it's okay to do so, then usually just have to compartmentalize, distract, and keep moving. If I dwell, it's definitely easy to spiral. I can acknowledge. I can know. I can educate...

I guess what I'm saying, is that she was everything I was looking for. But... she wasn't. You said so yourself here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=9670#p48913 I was consistently cornered into doing things I was uncomfortable with just to get her to stay. and I got nothing i...

Sorry, this post might be a little overwhelming since I see a couple subjects in your posts I wanted to address. Of course feel free to skip over anything irrelevant or that you just plain don't want to talk about (or even just let me know if this is too many people in your thread and you'd like me ...

Hey, thewrit3r, that's really tough and frustrating to be going through! Unfortunately, that's not a totally uncommon experience in academia. If you feel up to it, I think the idea of setting a boundary with these people and letting them know, "I'm so sorry, what you're experiencing isn't right...

I missed a bit, didn't I! It looks like all your questions are pretty well covered, so I just wanted to say that I'm so glad my suggestion could help you and that you felt grounded and in control of your body! That's amazing! I'm so sorry you kept getting interrupted, though, lol. I'm also glad you ...

I'm about to run out the door, so I don't have time for a longer post right now, but I did want to reply now in case I don't have time later tonight either. I'm so glad my explanation was able to help you and explain some things for you. <3 I'm so sorry that no adult caught on to what was happening ...

I'm glad things are going well for you! =)