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by Mo
Tue Jul 26, 2022 3:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Compulsive masturbation?
Replies: 5
Views: 1015

Re: Compulsive masturbation?

We're happy to help! :)
by Mo
Tue Jul 26, 2022 2:58 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Rebound sex/losing virginity casually?
Replies: 3
Views: 1306

Re: Rebound sex/losing virginity casually?

Hi there altrockhudson, and welcome in! As a very general statement, I think it's good to make plans for the future, when it comes to relationships, based on whatever people are telling us now , in the moment. It sounds like your friend is expressing some level of attraction to you, but that she's c...
by Mo
Mon Jul 25, 2022 4:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Girl best friend
Replies: 7
Views: 2171

Re: Girl best friend

I'm glad you found it helpful!
by Mo
Mon Jul 25, 2022 4:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Girl best friend
Replies: 7
Views: 2171

Re: Girl best friend

There's an advice column on our site about someone in a situation that sounds a little similar to yours, at least in terms of someone having sexual feelings for/a crush on a friend. Maybe it will be helpful to read through: I'm having sex fantasies about my crush! It might also be helpful to give yo...
by Mo
Mon Jul 25, 2022 3:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Girl best friend
Replies: 7
Views: 2171

Re: Girl best friend

It can be tough to be really attracted to someone and know that it isn't a good idea to ask them out or otherwise pursue things with them. In this sort of situation, I think it's best to have and acknowledge those feelings without mentioning them to her directly, since you don't think she'd be recep...
by Mo
Mon Jul 25, 2022 3:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1515714

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Oh gosh, I know so many people who've read and enjoyed Gideon the Ninth!! I haven't picked it up yet but have heard nothing but good things about it. I'm glad to hear you enjoyed it! Maybe it's cheesy, but I think when I'm struggling to connect with people or even with my own emotions, I get a lot o...
by Mo
Mon Jul 25, 2022 3:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 21
Views: 7562

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

I think it's great that you're thinking about the dynamic between the two of you and wondering if it's healthy or not. There are a few things you mention here that I think are important to look at a bit more closely, because there could be some potential for an unhealthy dynamic between the two of y...
by Mo
Tue Jul 19, 2022 3:04 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: is gray discharge normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 2133

Re: is gray discharge normal?

It might be worth it to keep an eye on things for a day or two to be sure you don't notice anything else unusual, in terms of discharge smell or color, but it sounds like you're probably in the clear.
by Mo
Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Shame and life
Replies: 1
Views: 2139

Re: Shame and life

I don't think there's necessarily a right or wrong answer, here. A lot of shame about sex or bodies is related, so you may find that if you're working on one issue then your work will touch on another area of shame even if you don't intend for that to happen. But I think it's fine to do whatever fee...
by Mo
Fri Jul 15, 2022 4:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sorry this is long
Replies: 11
Views: 2150

Re: Sorry this is long

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear that someone did that to you, and that your friend then left you when you were vulnerable and feeling unsafe. I can understand why you'd want to cut ties with those friends, after all of this.
How can we best support you right now?
by Mo
Tue Jul 12, 2022 2:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sorry this is long
Replies: 11
Views: 2150

Re: Sorry this is long

I will say, too, that it sounds like a lot of B's friends were putting pressure on A to kiss B, which is not great behavior on its own! Just because they didn't assault A doesn't mean they weren't engaging in some bad behavior too.
by Mo
Mon Jul 11, 2022 2:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sorry this is long
Replies: 11
Views: 2150

Re: Sorry this is long

Hi amberrobert, First off, I want to echo what Heather said above: this is a terrible thing that happened, but it isn't your fault at all. B made the choice to sexually assault A (and that is absolutely how I'd describe what happened: sexual assault and attempted rape); the fault is his. You really ...
by Mo
Fri Jul 08, 2022 2:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Arousal response from fear
Replies: 4
Views: 5745

Re: Arousal response from fear

While I don't have a specific citation or any research to point to around this, I have heard a couple people I know discuss this sort of arousal response from a frightening situation. None of them went into a lot of detail about their experiences, so I don't have much detail to provide beyond that, ...
by Mo
Fri Jul 08, 2022 2:18 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 31
Views: 13165

Re: Hello

Since it sounds like you'll be going back to see this doctor in a few weeks, maybe you could tell the doctor you're interested in seeing a therapist. Doctors are often able to give referrals out to other specialists; she might know of someone she thinks would be a good fit for you. She might also be...
by Mo
Mon Jul 04, 2022 4:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masochism versus self-harm?
Replies: 3
Views: 6537

Re: Masochism versus self-harm?

I'm definitely glad you have a therapist you feel comfortable talking to about this! I agree with Elise that it's fine that you didn't disclose the bruising to the healthcare practitioner you saw earlier, since you know there's already someone who's aware of the situation and looking out for you.
by Mo
Tue Jun 28, 2022 2:30 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish and losing virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 3884

Re: Fetish and losing virginity

Hi there Jeffsoup, and welcome to Scarleteen. One thing to keep in mind is that it's very common for people to have sexual desires and interests that they enjoy exploring through sexual media or masturbation that they either don't want to explore with someone else during partnered sex or don't feel ...
by Mo
Tue Jun 28, 2022 2:18 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: First time masturbate
Replies: 1
Views: 3962

Re: First time masturbate

Hi there, I see I just answered this question over text but wanted to respond here too; if you're noticing bleeding during masturbation (unless you're currently menstruating and are noticing menstrual blood), then that may be a sign you've been too rough or slightly injured yourself. What I'd do is ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 24, 2022 3:38 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I feel left behind
Replies: 3
Views: 2912

Re: I feel left behind

The fact that you're noticing some confidence (and that other people notice it as well!!) is a great sign. :) I wonder if you feel like it would be possible to start opening up a little to bit to some of your friends about how you're feeling. Maybe just start with one or two close people and share a...
by Mo
Mon Jun 20, 2022 4:54 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1515714

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I'm so glad our Pride celebration was good for you to see! We know a lot of folks aren't in places where they can attend Pride events or be open about who they are and it's great to hear that what we're doing is reaching folks. <3 Also, I would love to see your guinea pigs with their rainbow of vegg...
by Mo
Mon Jun 20, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Hello
Replies: 4
Views: 2455

Re: Hello

Hi there! I'm sorry chat wasn't open when you were here earlier! In case you see this now, chat's open for the next two and a half hours (until 5pm Pacific time). Our regular hours are here , just in case you don't have that info, but sometimes we do wind up understaffed during a regular shift time ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 17, 2022 4:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Penetration during Masturbation Hurts??
Replies: 1
Views: 2375

Re: Penetration during Masturbation Hurts??

Hi there lilfrog, and welcome to Scarleteen. One of the key components of any kind of vaginal entry is feeling very relaxed and aroused; it sounds like that's been no problem with partners in the past, but it's possible that you're attempting to use your toy before you're feeling aroused enough for ...
by Mo
Fri Jun 17, 2022 3:33 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?
Replies: 4
Views: 2167

Re: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?

While I can't speak to whether any changes in your sexual thoughts or feelings after starting T will set off your OCD or not, I can say from my own experiences that the "intensifying" effects on my sexual feelings, while definitely present, were pretty short-lived. It's something I got use...
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Lightbulb moments in media
Replies: 4
Views: 14180

Re: Lightbulb moments in media

There is something funny about looking back and seeing what seem to be HUGE obvious signs in retrospect that weren't obvious at all at the time.
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:16 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 5
Views: 3655

Re: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance

Do you have a sense of what would make you feel desired by men in a way that feels positive to you? I hear you on wanting to feel desirable, and I don't think that's an unreasonable feeling to have at all. It sounds like you don't want to feel sexualized by male friends; is there something in partic...
by Mo
Tue Jun 14, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 68
Views: 23699

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Oh gosh, I really feel you on not wanting to do close-quarters Pride events (or any events!!) indoors right now; it really bums me out that so few Pride events in many areas (including my own) are not taking covid precautions very seriously.

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